Women are emotional and men are sexual? How does that work?

Question

What do you think? Personally, I don't think you can have a sucessful relationship with that kind of thinking. I respect my partner. I love him and I love his emotions and my sexuality? Definitely! I am a sexual being just as I am an emotional being. My partner? First man I ever knew to insist it was making love and not f-ing, which in my rebellious years would refer to my vagina as a **** and my sex as a ****. It wasn't a lack of self respect thing. More of a getting to know myself in the contesct of the world thing...

I don't understand how men and women can think this way and still have a sucessful relationship. How does it work? I see loves as equals, as partners and most importantly as humans and humanity includes both the 'emotional' and 'sexual' world and it makes no sense any other way. Explain yourselves.

Answer 1

You can tell by the divorce rate and stats that it doesn't work. There has to be mutual respect for one another in order to at least have a decent shot at your marriage working out. People don't respect each other anymore. People are way too selfish and too many men put their sexual desires before anything else.

Answer 2

Relationships with that line of thinking won't last. Men have emotions too, but some men hide them better. When a man like that allows you to see their emotional side it is so much deeper than you could have imagined. Women are sexual too.

A relationship where two people are equals, respect and love each other and both give 100% is a relationship that will last.

Anyone who categorizes "all women" or "all men" are just labelling and have no idea what they are actually talking about. The only thing you can say about "all men" or "all women" that is a true fact, is that they are all individually different.

Answer 3

I think women can be as sexual as men (some of us are) and men can be as emotional as women (and some are). But I also think it was the way we were raised. Little boys are taught to be rough and tough, don't let anyone see you cry, don't play with dolls, etc. Little girls are given Barbie dolls and told that if you behave and are a little lady, prince charming will sweep you off your feet and you will live "happily ever after". This isn't the real world that we live in today though. I'm not sure it was EVER the real world.....
If two people are truly comfortable with each other, the sexual and emotional ties are there, and we can feel free to be who we really are, sexually AND emotionally. This is achieved over time, and not with a one-nighter.

Answer 4

Okay, you heard it from a woman, now here is my take: I say ditto to the the first answer. I'm in 100% agreement. Your man is sweet-talking you. He's telling you what you want to hear and it's working. Men's brains are wired differently. It drives procreation. The way women's brains are wired make them great mothers. All of this is generally speaking, of course.

Because of social influences perhaps, some women seem to forget that men have emotions too. We just express them differently. To men, we're not making love, we're having sex. Women tend to perceive that their men are expressing their love, when in fact they are indulging a physical need for sex.

You think he is making love to you because he wants you to enjoy it...not the least reason for which is so that he can keep coming back to fill that need. If he cares about you or loves you, he will also want to give you pleasure. That's what he's really doing-giving you pleasure and not professing his love for you.

Finally, it's important to note that men MUST be aroused to perform sexually. More often than not, that initial arousal comes from visual stimulation. It's why women who truly love their men and understand this or who are trying to attract a man, put effort into looking nice. After getting married, some women come to think that physical attraction is no longer necessary because their men love them. They are mistaken.

There are turn-off's to arousal as well. Perhaps one of the biggest is disrespect. All those mean and hurtful things that some women have a tendency to say when they are angry with their men have a direct negative impact on any feelings of attraction and arousal, although it doesn't necessarily affect how much a man loves his woman.

Well, much of this is personal opinion of course, but I hope it helps you to understand why people say that.

Answer 5

I personally think that women are emotional and men are more logical, but both are sexual. I think that many men and women look at sex differently though especially in the dating world. Men look at sex more as a physical thing and women take it as physical and emotional. The difference is when you get into a relationship with someone you love, trust and respect. Then the sexual aspect becomes physical and emotional to both of you. It is something incredible that the 2 of you share. I think women will always be more emotionally driven than men and that's why we still have fights and arguements. Men just look at things more logically. Our differences are what attract us to each other as men and women.

Answer 6

My boyfriend was deprived of the pleasures of lovemaking in his last relationship whom he was married to for 37 years and NOW with me , he feels like its just the greatest thing because we're so sexually compatible but hey we're not like rabbits though. LOL He is a very emotional male whom isn't afraid to let you see him cry if the mood hits him. I think that is a special thing because MOST men have been taught or seem to think that that is what women are suppose to do and they are sooo wrong to believe that. I didn't say ALL men feel that way, I said MOST men. Right? But I agree that more men are visual when it comes to sex than women are. I think most women have to feel it in their heart first before they can really be satisfied totally sexually. I said MOST of the time. I didn't say ALL the time. LOL

Answer 7

The problem is that most men are raised to be sexual and not emotional. You're 'gay' or not a 'real man' if you show your emotions or- gasp- cry. And most women are raised to be emotional and think that 'good girls' don't enjoy or seek out sex.

It is interesting that in early adulthood, a guy thinks about sex a lot which is around his sexual peak. But he lasts longer during sex and feels more satisfaction after he's older (30s and beyond) and sex isn't on his mind all the time anymore. He can focus on the love part and not just the physical. And women report more sexual satisfaction in their 30s and beyond as they are reaching their sexual peak and feeling more comfortable with themselves as good and normal women who enjoy sex.

So it seems to me that while we're young we're trying to conform to this idea that men are all about sex and women are all about emotion but it's not until we're older that we realize that's not true! We really are more alike than we thought.

Answer 8

Personally as a man I understand your outlook but then again each relationship is different because each couple are different. I don't think couples make love every time sometimes it's lovemaking lots of touching and loving with caresses and sometimes it's hard and fast each time it's different that's the way sex is. Sometimes it's wine and candlelight a nice dinner we take a bath together we make love then there are times I walk through the door and she pulls me to bed and rides me hard and I love both it makes thing different your not doing the same thing over and over that's what can make sex the same old thing. We also try new things if we both like it we keep doing if we don't we stop. But sex is based on emotion each time you have sex its emotional just different types of emotion each time.............

Answer 9

Men are just as emotional as women - we've just been trained since we were little boys to hide almost all of our feeligns. Men are only allowed two emotions - lust and rage, and that's why we are so bad at expressing any of the rest of our feelings!

Women are just as sexual as men - just they've been trained since they were little girls to hide their sexuality (and their anger too!). That's why women are so bad at expressing their sexuality, and they feel they have to be "in love" with a man to have sex with him, rather than just acting out on their lust!

Answer 10

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