... we are both from different countries we have a home in his country, and I have been coming there (staying for 6 months and going back to my country for 1 months or 2) The problem is that I wanna settle down and get my residentship of his country, yet he does not want me to apply for it- always delaying it... (although there is no problems in applying for residentship at all- he is the only problem). He says you can just stay for the period and then leave again. Whenever I ask him for a baby he does the same... I feel like someone in no man's land... alone and rejected. What does his behaviour mean?
2007-03-24 02:16:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure about marriage, as I have no experience, but he sounds as though he is avoiding making a true commitment to being and living with you forever. Your age gap means that your head space and plans for the future could be quite different. If you feel up to making something happen and are prepared for any consequences tell him you want residency now, or you may not be coming back, it's mean to test his love but may be necessary
2007-03-24 02:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes having you there, then having you leave. That leaves him to do whatever he wants while you are gone. If he gives you a baby then he is going to have to settle down. As his wife you don't need his permission to apply for residency to his country. You are his wife and there is no sense in all the coming and going. See what he does after you apply. If things look like they won't change you should then consider a divorce.
2007-03-24 02:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its hard to tell. He should be supportive of you and what you want, and want to do! I think its wonderful you want a baby, and want to get residency here. Its a good place to. But I dont understand why he dosent want you to be happy. Im pretty sure you love him. But to me he sounds like he wants you miserable. If you feel alone and rejected find someone who wont make you feel that way. Someone who will be with you where ever you want to be, and give you a child. Im not saying you shouldent try to work it out, but if this has been going on for 3 years now I dont think he is gonna change. I hope maybe this helped you some!
Good luck with your choices!
2007-03-24 03:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all due respect, I think you know the answer to your own question - you just want to hear someone else say it.
You have a greater sense of commitment to this relationship than he does. Next time you leave, don't come back. If he comes after you, you can have a conversation. If he doesn't come after you - and from what you say, I don't think he will - you will have to start making a series of painful decisions.
Sorry - I don't see a happy ending here
2007-03-24 02:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something defnatley worrying about the situation....
Take a look at the stituation that you met in
Take a look at the history of you and him has he introduced you to family and friends? Work Colleagues?
have you adapted to his customs and beleifs?
has he accepted your belevies and cultures>
have you asked him why he dosn't want you around all the time?
like one of the other users said next time you leave him behind leave him for good if he loves you as much as you seem to think he will be back for you quick smart.
2007-03-24 02:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to break it to you. But if he doesn't want to be with you 24/7 then he's probably hiding something from you. Whether its something related to his hobbies or his professional life that he knows you won't approve of, or another woman...I smell a rat. Give him an ultimatum. Either he help you apply for residency or you can stay in your country permanently. Another red flag would be: if he hasn't introduced you to his co-workers, friends or family...I'd say there is definately something going on.
2007-03-24 02:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by BarbwireNRoses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's attitude is strange to say the least. Did he ever explain to you the reason he does not want you to apply for a USA citizenship? You are an adult, go ahead and do it on your own if all your papers are in order.
2007-03-24 02:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how it works in your country , but in the u.s that means that the guy is hiding something. Maybe someone else comes for the time your not there. I would get pregnant or leave him. getting pregnant isn't going to keep him, but than you wont be lonely.
2007-03-24 02:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound good or fair to you or your marriage. It seems that he would want you to be in the same country with him. You really need to ask him why he doesn't you two to be together all the time. If I were you I'd go straight to the source and ask why.
2007-03-24 03:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thought, bigamy. It's a result of day time TV. Okay, second though, why? Why is he doing this? Have you asked him why he doesn't want you around? Tell him how you feel. Talk to him not to me!
2007-03-24 02:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋