2007-03-24 02:10:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, as long as you have no pressing need to be out of the home, and your wife understands the situation, and you two can treat each other with respect in the home, why tear it up?
Divorce is devastating finacially and it isn't a great situation for the child, either.
Maybe you just move into the spare bedroom for awhile and see if everyone adjusts to what's happening and take it slow.
2007-03-24 02:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your asking ! Ill give a shot. I guess your wife doesn't wont a divorce or she thinks your bluffing . If your really going to do it then just do it but beware there's allot more to it then just getting the big D . 1 your daughter is better off with the mother its just to hard for a man to i know I'm doing that .2. Time is money and your kid takes all your time. 3. woman do not wont another woman's kid no matter what you hear its untrue. 4. No social life your friends don't wont to be bog down by a kid. So you end up Broke no girlfriends and nobody gives a crap.
Your wife isn't ready for divorce advise ? Well i don't blame her its hell .Your better off raising your daughter under the same roof for the child's sake yours and your wife's . Lead a double life if you have to its a hoe lot cheaper better on your daughter and you . That way to you have time to see the light and may decide your better off where your at.
2007-03-24 03:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that.f your wife is vindictive the court system is geared to benefit the mother regardless if you are the better parent or not. The best you can do is not fight over your daughter. She had the right to love both of you equally. Try to used a parenting coordinator to come up with a plan that allows you and your wife equal access that is fair and reasonable for your daughter's sake. Try to be the best co-parents to your daughter. The court and lawyers have no idea "what is in the best interest of the child really means" It really a poor broken system.
Good luck
2007-03-24 03:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you no longer love your wife and don't see it coming back ever, then the only thing to do is sit down with your wife and be honest. Then get the divorce papers. But realize that you did love her at one time, so be respectful of that. And realize that it's no longer about the two of you- it's about your daughter. She needs you guys to act like adults and end your marriage civilly and fairly.
It's not true that women don't want other women's kids. That guy must be bitter about something. And leading a double life gets you NOTHING. If you don't love her, don't cheat on her. Be a REAL MAN and get a divorce or go to counseling and see if your marriage can be saved. But it's not healthy for your daughter to see you two together if you're not happy. Remember that her model for future relationships is her parent's relationship. If you want her to be happy and healthy, you'll want to be a good role model.
2007-03-24 03:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by sgtlambsonswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real questions are what do YOU want and what is best for your child.
If you don't love your wife, there's no point in staying together.
A child, if done in a civil way, will come to understand that just because you and your wife are not in love, doesn't mean you don't love them.
Since the love is not there, the only thing holding you two together is paper. That's not enough for a healthy relationship.
Be honest with your child and yourself.
2007-03-24 02:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by AC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Draw up the papers and serve her with them. Remember, half of all your assessets aquired in marriage in this country entitles her to half. Be ready for a fight over custody too. Do what is right for your daughter, not yourself. Your a father now, be one- a good one.
2007-03-24 02:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're miserable, your daughter will notice and be negativelly affected by it. You need to what you need to do to be happy and be the best Dad you can be. Just don't forget to reassure you daughter a lot, especially once you get the divorce proceedings going. The only way you will be a great dad is when you're happy in your life.
2007-03-24 03:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're actually not in love. you're in Lust. She is a youthful especially factor and he or she has you all warm and afflicted. ask your self how she feels approximately you. greater effective than probable in case you left your spouse for her, she won't bypass out with you. She thinks of you as an older guy married to her mom. start up romancing your spouse and doing issues for her to re-ignite your thoughts to your spouse and bypass away the daughter on my own.
2016-10-19 12:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do to improve your marriage. Your daughter didn't ask to be born. You have a responsibility to provide her with a happy homelife. Put in some effort to make your marriage work.
2007-03-24 05:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she doesn't want a divorce then maybe u should still give her a chance, 4 ur daughter's sake. itz very hard growing up with divorced parents. don't be self-concieted.
2007-03-24 02:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by Desi_Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋