I have met a friend after 15 years?

Question

and we discovered that we are in love. He is a very sincere and high profile man who keeps my safety and concern as a paramount concern. We feel that we truely love each other. Both of us are happily married and have our respective families and children. he is around 40 in age and iam 35 We mutually are non demanding. we just want to share our joys sorrows and day to day experiences. What we feel that our love is purely unconditionally and god driven that has made us meet after 15 years. years earlier when we had met we had no romantic inclinations, we were just friends...but now things are different. But our approach towards this relationship is very mature and pious. We are more concerned about emotional bonding that is getting cementing very fast plus we feel that there is a divine managemnt that has made us come across each other so dramatically. pls give your views

Answer 1

I guess if you continue your friendship with utmost honesty there is no harm.

Answer 2

I think you both are full of Bull-$h!t...your rambling are nothing but excuses for bluffing yourself that whatever happens here-on is 'very mature and pious.' You are just paving the way for having an affair, which you know is around the corner. Go ahead have your fling but don't try and be a saint about it. Screw your happy marriage and respective families and children...they are not worth the joy of an old flames fling.

Answer 3

Whatever may be the justifications offered by you to come closer to him, it is too late in the day to go ahead on your self-serving affair.

Too many persons are involved on either side, especially innocent children.

Besides, nobody can stop you from maintaining a respectful friendship with eachother and that is what two mature and pious people are expected to do under the circumstances.

Answer 4

its a common feeling not unusual, give time to each other for a while make your spouse understand your friendship and meet each other to your hearts content, if your spouse cannot understand then it will be very difficult because this is a matured relation and to go grow further in life it is very necessary to go through it and come ou t of it without any mental constraints then your life will become smooth and more meaningful i am answering this to you so confidently because i went through this and now i am proud to tell you i am out of it and i have a husband w ho is very understanding and allowed me to go through it. He was very understanding and gave me lot of space for about 2 yrs. today i can proudly say i am out of it and don't feel anything about it and my respect for my husband doubled and i love him today more than before.

Answer 5

clearly meeting someone from the past has made u feel young again.... it is just friendship between you and your friend and nothing else... as you said you are both happy in your respective lives don't let this equilibrium get disturbed.... any mistake now and you will lose your families....... probably the divine management just wanted you to meet someone from your past to rekindle the young you in you.... may be restart and finish what you had left undone before stepping into marital bliss... whatever said and done please tell your spouse about your new friend..... it will make him feel secure.

Answer 6

i'd been in same situation before, i met my college bestfriend after 13yrs and we discovered that we like each other.. he just told me that it is me whom he really want to be his wife but since i just disappear after graduation, he lost track of me. we also have our own families.
i enjoy his company and i like him.. we're also very mature with the situation.. but just like the sayings.. there is no secret in this world.. his wife finds out about me and things suddenly changed.. all the blame was put on me, it seems that he told his wife that i am the one who wants the relationship and he dont even like me.
he said it because he want to save his marriage.. and no sorry can heal the wound for such words.
such relationship will do no good.. our friendship is wasted.. all the love and respect that we shared during our college days are gone.. in just a snap!

Answer 7

Get married and live happily ever after. If it won't work out, you can consider it to be the God's will as well.

Answer 8

all i can say is put yourself in your spouse shoes and imagine your reaction when u tell them or they find out whats going on its not just about you at least let them know so thast they can decide how they want to spend the rest of their life

Answer 9

hi,
u seem mature enough, but jus take of one thing that ur life doesnt get disturbed in eny way.......coz now ur not alone ul children are also dependent on u.........think from all the sides n take eny decision.
all the best.