why do we entertain man-made rulez like 1) marraige, 2) no sex before marraige, 3)no adultery?

Question

marraige is a man-made rule, you cant deny, its ot bad and good points, but it is still subject to defects. why do we have to entertain such a rule. long back unavailability of contraceptives discouraged adultery and before marraige sex, so why TOday we follow all this. is age old tradition today become useless rituals

Answer 1

Actually, many of us believe marriage was made by God, where God performed the first marriage when he made Eve for Adam in the garden and gave them their instructions.

So the other rules you cite, the same folks believe they are God's rules, not mans.

I can't tell you what you are to believe, but for me, I believe these to be God's rules and not mans.

If I'm wrong, no big deal. If you are wrong, you have to answer to God, not me.

I wish you well.

Answer 2

If these rules exist, they exist to protect and benefit womankind primarily.
1) Marriage makes for a more "stable" relationship which creates a conducive environment to bring forth children into, in order to propogate the human species. A woman sub-consciously always chooses a mate that will be a good provider for her and her children. (You wouldn't fall for a loser, would you, now?)
2) No sex before marriage: Well, you have a choice today. There's no law against pre-marital sex. You may choose to do it, or you may choose not to. It depends largely upon your cultural and familial upbringing, your own value system and your comfort level.
3) No adultery: Again, there are enough people in the world being adulterous, and they haven't been put behind bars or stoned to death. But to ask for social sanction for adultery is like saying why should we follow traffic rules? The world is a free place, we could all just drive, walk, ride, anywhere we wanted, one-ways and red lights be damned. So you're really asking for jungle law then.

Answer 3

So what rules do you follow, if not man made?

Rules help us to avoid pitfalls of the past. They make our lives better, by giving us guidance in areas where we often tend to be uninformed.

Humans, over the millenia, have experienced great pain and heartache because of mistakes they have made. Rules are made to help us avoid making the same mistakes and thus experiencing the same pain and heartaches.

If you think tradition and rituals are useless, you obviously have not looked into the reasoning behind these rituals.

Although a well-worn cliche, it is true that if you fail to learn from histroy, you are doomed to repeat it.

Trying to tear down all of the rules because you have some hormonal desire is not civilized behavior and puts us in the same category as animals.

Answer 4

Ah, so you have decided they are man made in order to feel no worries or pain or regret in breaking them huh? Too badly you cant say with anymore certainty that you are right then are those who say these rules came from God, now can you. All you can do is decide to believe what you want and hope that you are right.

Now, ask yourself these. Just what is the down side of following any of these rules? Then ask yourself what has been the downside from not following them?

If you are honest with yourself, which I doubt you can be, you will have to admit that not following these rules has brought about far more pain, suffering, problems, social problems, health problems and other costs, then following them ever has or would have brought us.

Sounds to me like you are just another one of those people who want right and wrong to be about what you like, think or what allows you to do as you want. Just what will you think or say when someone practices the same way of being, hurts you or cheats on you?

Hey, if you get to make up your own rules, what is wrong with others doing so, even if it means they wipe you out? If this stuff is just man made, I have to assume that you have little problem with anything another person does, even to you. For you sure dont have grounds to be if you think its all about what we like and just man made anyway.

Answer 5

Marriage allows for structure in society, a combined income, and supposedly, a home for children to be raised in.

If you look around not a lot of folks "entertain" the rules of no sex before, or outside of marriage. We have STD's, unwanted pregnancies resulting in children in single parent homes, and a generation of young single men paying child support before they've even thought about getting married.

The basis is always economic. The state cannot afford to foot the bill for a population that cannot care for it's children financially.

Answer 6

The whole question is grounded in rule of law and ownership. Women were originally (and in some countries still are) personal property or the man. This gave the husband certain rights with his woman. Laws evolved to clarify the disposition of personal property in the relationship, and also to define rights of inheritance. The role and ownership of children also figured into the equation. So marriage became part of law to formalize and to announce that relationship to the world. Ego was also a factor as in "She is MINE! Keep your grubby hands OFF!!"

Biologically though, monogamy runs counter to human nature. We want many partners, not just one, and this is true of most other animals.

Answer 7

We entertain them because they have been instilled on us since birth. It is a tradition, that is the way it works.

Now though things are changing. A lot of people are opting out of marriage or creating their own rules for marriage. Which is great if it works.

If two people agree on a certain way marriage should work, and they are both on the same page they can write whatever rules for it they want. That's the way to go....

Answer 8

What you call yesterdays rules everyone else with a little maturity calls wisdom. Just not thought of by us, just our grand parents. Otherwise we might as well throw away the Constitution, it was made by old people, the Bill of Rights, Hey, lets go back to living in caves! What you really want is to have free reign on all your decisions. No repercussions on your mistakes. Sorry dude, we won't throw out wisdom just because it doesn't fit in your world.

Answer 9

We marry people because we love them. Everything has good sides and bad sides but why not go ahead commit your life to the person you intend to spend it with? Makes sense to me. As for adultry...when you are married it is wrong to sleep with someone else, regardless of the reason. Then again, why would anyone want to sleep around with all the STDs and diseases floating around? As for sex before marriage, I can't say I agree on that one....but to go with my answer above...don't be a lsut. If you know you are going to be with someone or if you have been with them for a long period of time then I don't see what is wrong with giving yourself to them. Some old traditions still hold value because they are good ones and a lot of people believe them. Not to mention they are in the bible.

Answer 10

Well, these 'rules' do have a purpose. You are right in some ways that these 'rules' should not apply to everyone and they don't. A lot of people choose not to get married or to have premarital sex or to have 'open marriages' or 'swing', sometimes it ends badly, but sometimes so does 'traditional marriage'.