I'm in love with him and he is in love with me very much so--he is much older than I am (22 years) ---I made a very bad mistake--he is married --I've been trying to "make a plan" without hurting him but every time I think about not having him in my life it feels like my stomach is on fire--the last time I tried--he called me several times--he told me from the beginning he is never going to divorce but at the time I did not love him--he also told me that if things ever change he would be with me within a heartbeat--I feel like an idiot and I know I have been taking advantage of but why can't I just forget about him
2007-03-24 01:22:12 · 16 answers · asked by beaq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just dump him, forget making a plan, that is just playing games. tell him to go be with his wife. Shame on you.
Married guys always say that same line of sh!t, do not fall for it.
2007-03-24 01:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just break it off and dont think twice about it hon. You will be much better off for it trust me. He is not truley in love with you if he is married and still with his wife. He needs to work on the marriage with his wife and let you go. If i were you i would be tired of being the other woman in the picture and i would want out asap and i would NEVER look back. You have been used and taken advantage of... He basically is using you for a booty call here and there. You are just a convenience to him. Get out now while the gettin is good. Find someone who is single and will be available to love you. Good luck to you.
2007-03-24 08:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realizing you made a mistake is the best thing you said! Try placing yourself in his wife's shoes...how would you feel? The guy is a jerk for doing this to his wife and you aren't any better, knowing he's married and allowing it to continue! Grow up, put your big girl panties on and DEAL with STOPPING this relationship .Take responsibility and do the RIGHT thing!. You will find someone closer to your own age and who is NOT married, IF you get out of this situation. AND, you will feel better about yourself.
2007-03-24 08:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by ConcernedMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well atleast you know you've been taking advantage of, so thats one down (knowing that will make it eaiser so there will not be any excuse to hang on to him anymore). From my experience in painfull realtionships (and I've had a nice handfull). The way I dealt with my pain was to find another person (never anything serious, you dont need another big issue after this bad experience) usually for a girl theres gotta be that nice guy around who always seems to be there helping you, always willing to pay for lunch, etc. Thats the guy you want to hang out with. Make sure he knows its not going to be serious. Occupy your time thinking of your married ex, with another guy. After time, you'll find yourself thinking less and less of him. Also fill your time with "you" do things you want to do/things that will better yourself. Stuff like this is never easy, but know that you will get over it in time. Good luck.
2007-03-24 08:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by thilandennat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you know he's married, how can you love such a scumbag?
Excuse me, but he doesn't love you. The fact that he's cheating on his wife should tell you that. One cannot "love" one person, whilst "not loving" another. Do you understand? It's as if you expect love and hate to co-exist. Impossible.
It's not your fault he was dishonest with you (and everyone else), but you have absolutely no obligation to continue any kind of relationship with such a person.
Your desire for him is merely chemical. Get away from him and find someone who is (at least) single.
2007-03-24 08:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by mrearly2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, suck it up! You can do this. Do not stick around here, there is no future and you dishonor your self and his wife by continuing. Break it off. Take a trip or vacation if you can. Ask a girlfriend or family member to give you support while you walk AWAY. Tell him that he already knows that this is unfair and unfortunate, but not good for either one of you to continue this way, and go. good luck.
2007-03-24 08:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by mountain woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not easy but be strong you are in the right path by making this move. I hope you will be able to move forward to a better life. Take care
2007-03-24 08:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by aqua_gurl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you want out because he is married. Stop taking his calls or his mails. The threat of his wife finding out will check his persistence
2007-03-24 08:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Elder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is over. It will hurt. Severe all ties. If he is never gonna divorce, then why are you there. He sleeps with you, then his wife???!!!! Gross. Sounds like he has it made. Learn and move on.
2007-03-24 09:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by noitall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's got a wife your just the sidechicc even if he loves you. Leave him and move on do what you think is best for you.
2007-03-24 08:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋