2007-03-24 01:14:27 · 29 answers · asked by In the same boat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she didn't complete the sentence....... probably her husband has already nuked her out.......
2007-03-24 01:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an affair has been the best time of your life, because there's no commitment and it's all fun & games. In reality, you're hurting your husband and destroying what little marriage you have left. Either you're lacking something very important in your relationship OR you just simply wanted a fling, which is a cheap shot and not fair to your life's partner. You need to ask yourself, how you would feel if he did this to you! That picture's not so wonderful now is it? These other bozo's in here telling you to keep doing it, don't care if you jump off a cliff. If your marriage is still worth anything to you at all, than "end" the affair & work on repairing it. Otherwise, you are your own worst enemy and have sabotaged a possibly good future - with someone that loves you. That's a lot to regret.
2007-03-24 08:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's ok to have an affair. However Im sure there is so much to say about your marriage that you wouldn't know where to begin. I don't know your marriage so Im going to answer the best I can based on the question. I believe you still love your husband, he's your husband! I think if you are ready to try and work things out with him you need to stop this affair in order to move on. Seek conceling or try to work it out on your own. I wouldn't tell him about the affair. It sounds horrible for someone to say,but if you do its going to take you two steps back. Think about going forward! If its over and done with so why tell him and hurt him. I think you are having an affair because it gives you a rush that you don't get with your husband. This other man probably makes you felll great emotionally. Its new. Any way just think about it. Good Luck
2007-03-24 08:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an affair is wrong...ask yourself how you can betray someone you say you love.Don't you realize that you are risking losing your husband and is an affair worth THAT? Sure, it's exciting NOW, but what happens if your husband finds out...how exciting will it be THEN? How would YOU feel if your husband did this to you? I suggest you STOP the affair and make your MARRIAGE exciting!
2007-03-24 08:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by ConcernedMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People sometimes cannot get all their needs met with one person, either sexually, emotionally, socially, Etc. The patriarchs who set up the institution of marriage set it up for economic and societal needs. Our human biology is very complicated and when we try to deny our personal way of being we become sick.
Also, we can love more than one person at a time. Just like we can love our kids, we can love more than one lover, at different levels and with different intensity.
Enjoy life. Try not to hurt your husband-keep the affair hidden. Blow off those who would judge you. They have no idea what is going on inside your own skin.
Take care.
2007-03-24 08:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your husband, you're having a great time with your affair, why not combine the two? What would your husband think if the situation was not a threat to his marriage?
2007-03-24 10:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you enjoyed having affair because it was exciting and at the same worrying in a fun way but u got sick of having to much fun and thought about what your husbands thinking?
2007-03-24 08:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! yes an affair can be very exciting. There must be a reason why you started cheating on your hubby. If that hasnt been resolved then the affair will continue.
2007-03-24 08:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you not take vows at your wedding? Do you have kids? What type of roll model are you for them? How do you FEEL about yourself? Do you like yourself? Are you proud? Do you want every one in town to find out? Do you really want to hurt your husband so much? Do you really feel that you don't deserve to be happy, so you are (in effect) shooting yourself in the foot just to punish yourself? How can you trust a man who asks you to betray your family and ideals? You already know it is wrong and why it is wrong..so GROW UP! or fake it, and do what is right!! Show your love for your husband by letting him decide for himself if he wants to be with a person like yourself. (chicken!). Put the spice and fun back in your marriage..have an affair with YOUR HUSBAND.. You want fun...have sex in the town square with your hubby..don't get caught.
Who all knows about what you are now doing? If it is not too late , get out of that mess and never hurt your loved?ones by telling them about it..not until you are so old that it will no longer matter. Face yourself in the mirror..how can you like that woman you have become? If you are going to act the part at least get paid for it so the family can enjoy it too!!
2007-03-24 08:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hand me that Bull$hit that you still love your husband!
If you loved him you would not be cheating on him!
Do you really think that he will continue to Love you and Trust you after he finds out about your affair?
Chances are that he won't!
Get a divorce now and save your self a lot of grief later!
2007-03-24 08:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some would say you don't really love your husband because if you did, you would not want anyone else in your life. Your husband is the one that will ultimately get hurt by this, because all this time, he thought you were happy with him. Why did you get married, if you really don't have a commitment to him? If you are willing to risk your marriage to have sex with someone else; are you willing to lose your husband too?
2007-03-24 08:19:19 · answer #11 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋