What can i do about this...?

Question

My fiances ex girlfriend has been trying to contact him but he has not accepted any invitations from her to be friends online. They haven't spoken in months which i dont mind as in my opinion it is hard to stay friends with an ex especially when they dumped you which she did. But a few weeks a go she started requesting to be friends with me and we have never met and she dont know mw as we haave only spoken on my fiances MSN once. The problem is she has now started to email me asking how my fiance is and she put her phone number in the email with a note saying that she wants to chat with both more often but they used to talk and text every evening till me and my fiancee moved in together. But she haas decided she wants back in after almost a year. What do i do as i did let my fiance know and he said to me she is only emailing me to get in contact with him so we both agree. but he isn't sure what he wants to do he said he may contact her in his own time can you help as i think as he has

built a new life with me and she is now living with her partner and new born baby. So what do you think as i have been brought into this?

The problem is hes been out with her twice and one of them times was a rebound from his last engagement. but while he was seeing his other girlfriend him and his ex emailed each other dirty stuff i think thats why he dont wanna make that mistake again. They never really got close when they went out as my fiance found it hard getting close to girls then, but now she has had chances tto talk as she is on his msn list so she has had chances over the passed year but didnt bother till now and even he thinks theres something not right. As just cause she has a baby it doesnt mean she wont try and get him back as some people would do.

i know the babys not his as she lives miles away and barely saw her once a year before we met but we are happier with out her

Answer 1

do what you think is the best,or talk 2 sum1 that you think u r close 2 that can help u.Hope i helped in any way.

Answer 2

Difficult, she seems to have moved on, she has a child and a new partner.

She may not to want to loose he's friendship, and now that you have moved in with and him he hasn't emailed her or spoken to her that much, she may feel that theres a reason behind it. She may think that you may have stopped him from talking to her and therefore asking if she could be friends with both.

To be honest it sounds innocent, purely because she has moved on and has a baby and new partner. If she wanted him back, she wouldn't be going around you and asking if you both could be friends. (Hope this makes sense).

If you think that he has emailed her without saying anything to you then you need to speak to him and let him know your worries.

The thing is you don't know their history, and people can be friends with their ex's, if you don't trust our partner whats the point of the relasionship.

Dont worry too much. Speak to him and if there's something to worry about, worry then, you have nothing to worry about at the moment xx

Answer 3

you and your fiance will have to tell her that you want no more contact with her, she has a motive, she may be in a new relationship but she has some unresolved feelings for him and clinging to the fact that she thinks they may have a small chance, get her out of the picture otherwise if she knows that the two of you are having any relationship problems she will use that as leverage to come between the both of you and try to keep him in her life as a backup plan if her now relationship doesn't work out.....

Answer 4

She sounds bit weird... do you really want to be in a situation like that? My advise would be to leave the past in the past. Ignore her attempts to contact you and ask your man to do the same. If the situation was reversed, he would most probably expect that from you. Your engagement should be a happy time for the two of you without the interference of a needy ex. Good luck!

Answer 5

This woman is trying to get your fiance back as her boyfriend. I would encourage you two to have a serious talk about it, let her know once and for all that you will not be in contact, and block her emails.

Answer 6

If the guy thinks anything of you .He should be happy with you and not to be bothered by the Ex.
As someone has already said an Ex is a bad move on the horizon and there's normally a motive behind the friendly smiles!
Please remember " A wolf in sheep's clothing " Please take heed of this

Answer 7

I would send her an email back and let her know that you do not intend to call her or talk to her on the computer.Let her know that you and your fiance are happy and you do not intend on having a relationship with her.Wish her good luck with her new partner and child, and let her know that your fiance has moved on with his life and is happy.

Answer 8

Sounds lke she wants him back and will use you to get to him if necessary. He perhaps still has feelings for her which is why he has been able to keep from talking to her but is weakening a little now.
You must tell him how you feel about her being back in the picture again. He is with you now and shouldnt contact her.

Answer 9

It doesn't sound good at all; an ex wanting to get back into the life of her own ex; something is brewing there. Delete everything you have of her and change your email address.

Answer 10

An ex appearing on the scene is never a good think. It sounds as if she has motive, it would be wise for you both to ignore her or it will all end in tears.

Answer 11

she is in panic mode with a new baby and partner and wants him back. If i were you i wouldn't be worried about my man but her as she might try to persuade him. If the relationship ended then thats were i would let it stay. Good luck