i have this guy friend who i really liked and he told me he was attracted to me but he had a girlfriend. but recently i realised he was just using me to help him with his college work. he only ever calls when he needs help and if if i try and contact him he doesnt text back or call back and makes excuses when he sees me for why he didnt get back to me.
i need to ditch him as a 'friend' but we hang out in a group together and i see him almost every day. i havent talked to the others about how i feel so i dont know how to stop being friends with him and still hang out with them. should i ignore him or just pretend like everythings alright or should i talk to him about how i feel.
2007-03-23 22:57:42 · 9 answers · asked by poppettes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would talk to him about how all this is making you feel, you hang in a group and whilst ignoring him would be easier, it would be noticable and leave the others in a difficult position, possibly resulting in them having to take sides, if your friend is responsive then its problem solved, but if not, you may have no option but to involve the others, if it came down to that i would talk to one of the others, the one you think will be the most objective and give you the best advice, hopefully once you point out to your friend that his behaviour is a little selfish it will be a wake up call and spur him into being a more considerate friend, good luck to you
2007-03-23 23:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like much of a friend to me...and I don't think that discussing your feelings with him will work out well.
Maybe you should let him do his own school work, and use your free time to find another guy. Eventually, his classes will end, and he will move on anyway. You have nothing to lose here.
2007-03-23 23:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make excuses continuously for everything that benefites him. If comes around alway give him work to do: redo a closet type up hand written things into the computer and so on. If offers dinner, request the money instead.
2007-03-23 23:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him and tell him no that you are feeling used but then even though you've talked to him I still wouldn't get back together with him unless you really really really care for him. . .but keep him as a friend if you can. Good Luck!
2007-03-24 00:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by always-live-life-to-the-fullest 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to talk with your group friends about this. Simply ignore this "friend" who calls you when he needs your help. if he talks with you just answer him what is neccessary, you don't have to get yourself involve with him. Remember, do not have to make any first move. You don't need him anyway. Just go on with your life with your other friends.
2007-03-23 23:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not talk and take his calls for 15 days..things would be fine. When in group ...Ignore HIM.
2007-03-23 23:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by KISH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish and using you.. DUMP him as your steady boy friend, lover whatever.. Maintain his friendship as you would do to other boys.
2007-03-23 23:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight inthe face..
2007-03-23 23:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by aNjAsMaRa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need him to survive... just dump him.
2007-03-23 23:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋