Surely the man is more to blame as he has made a committment to someone else? Should it make any difference if the other woman knew about the wife/girlfriend before or not?
2007-03-23 22:56:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Baby I agree with you. Men who cheat on their wives are completely responsible for their actions and often lie to the woman they have the affair with so that they can maintain the two relationships as well. I think it's horrible to do this to first of all their wives and secondly their mistresses. And also women who cheat on husbands are wrong.
I have much more respect for people who know their relationship is wrong and first of all split up with their spouse before they start roving. If they are not willing to do this then they should keep their arm in the sling.
2007-03-24 02:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with that. I have been the sinner and the sinned against.a long time ago when I was the sinner, I had an affair with a man I worked with. His wife never knew. We were both consenting adults; both knew what we were doing; I was unattached at the time, coming out of an abusive marraige, and I need to feel wanted again. not an excuse, by the way. Some of my neighbours were nosy enough to approach me and tell me I was a disgrace, that I should leave him alone. I asked them were they also willing to talk to the man in this affair too. They shut up and went away.
My abusive husband also had an affair; I found out about it; we were still together at the time. The poor deluded girl he was charming the pants off had no idea he was married with a small baby. I found letters from her after he'd left declaring her love.
It takes two to have an affair. The tradition has been to blame the woman - woman the seductress; the harlot; man the unwary Adam, just ripe for seduction by Eve. Yes, it goes back that far all right.
I remember listening to a sermon in our church about the wickedness of young women who dressed immodestly for the sole purpose of leading men into sin. there wasn't a peep of protest out of the congregation. It's an ancient idea, common to all cultures that women lead men astray.
2007-03-24 04:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have to ask?
All women are the enemy as far as other women are concerned - when they show your husband some unnecessary attention.
With out other women there would be no affair.
Yes the man is to blame as well.
My view is if a man and a woman's (man/man, woman/woman - whatever) relationship is based on honesty and good communication then there wouldn't be a problem - every single person involved in the affair, including the wife have responsibility toward the problem.
2007-03-24 05:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My divorce came through and the reason for getting divorced was because my husband was having an affair with his mates wife and her husband caught them kissing at a party we were all at I left early to let the babysitter go home. He told me the whole story the following day as he was scared someone else would tell me. I don't know if its the only affair he's had during the marriage but he did it once he could have done it again and I lost all trust in him. My blame lies on both of them but it turned out that the woman he fell for had a string of fellas and her husband was also having an affair so they were both at it.
2007-03-24 14:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by honey bunch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH are to blame if she knew. The man certainly is sinful in his attentions to other women. He has no right to do so. However, GOD will judge him at the proper time. I would suggest that the wife and husband should be attending church and studying the Gospel together. GOD would allow her to divorce him at this time if she chose to do so. Some people are just that way. Whether it is a family trait or a problem in upbringing the problem should be addressed by the spouse and handled in a manner that will satisfy her. Let me know if I may be of any assistance. Send a note and I will gladly respond. Have a great day.
Thanks,
Eds
2007-03-24 05:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree the thing is, the wife doesn't want to admit that she married a man who would actually THINK of cheating on her so she has to put the blame solely on the other woman. I've actually had heated arguments with a friend of mine over this. Her husband cheated on her and she held him totally blameless. I contend that her husband being an adult made a number of choices that made him just as at fault as the other woman (He accepted the other woman's invitation to come over to her house WITHOUT his wife was the first choice) I feel that both the husband and other woman are eaqually to blame because they BOTH make choices
2007-03-24 07:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had an affair and i blame her, the guy was some who came onto her like all the others who have in a club.
The bottom line is it was her decision, every married person in the world must get approached and chatted up at some time, it is the married persons decision to do something about it.
We are back together, the guy lives well away from here which makes things easier and although i feel real anger towards him, in a way it's not his fault.
My only revenge is i have his mobile phone number and i give it to ever single nigerian scamming email i get, telling them his name, where he lives and he that will be very happy to help.
2007-03-23 23:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes 2 to have an affair so both are to blame, but if the other woman didn't know about the wife or girlfriend then how can you blame her?
2007-03-23 23:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by sue h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is the mans fault. he is the one who stepped out of the relationship. but most people blame the female. what if the female did not know the man was even in a relationship? i would blame both is the woman knew that the man was in a relationship and/or knew the woman and the of course the man because he stepped out of bounds.
2007-03-23 23:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by PhatBeatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a man if jointly to blame and if he has an affair then he is clearly not happy is he?! its easier said than done to sort things out with your partner, people on this site are very harse and judgemental, women are not always at fault,i take it that you didnt know he had someone else..a committment to some else is always very well if your happy, but life is short, and we have one go at it.take care.
2007-03-24 05:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋