though i love my wife v much and shes beautifull i keep on watching and desire other girls - like all men do- !! (thats the reason we ve eayes anyways )... but i dont want to go further with them at all i dont even speak or stare or just accept - say a nice comment
2007-03-23 22:05:31 · 4 answers · asked by dimitris l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not natural to let your eyes wonder when you see another woman, I don't care what you say. If you can ogle strange women you don't know then you can ogle your wife.
2007-03-23 22:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why is it bothering you? i guess maybe your wife is bothered about it? if yes, then you should stop, if and only if you find it in yourself, and be totally honest that the woman you married is the most beautiful woman for you, not bcoz it is true, but if you tell her so that you love her then you can never do anything to upset her... how would you feel if she is doing the same thing to you? can you still feel that your wife appreciates you? while she is looking at other men that are more attractive than yourself? think about it... if you love yourself, you won't do anything to hurt yourself, right? then why do things that would hurt someonne you said you love and someone you married in the first place... you maybe faithful yes... but it doesn't mean you can't hurt your wife with that... being faithful, is not only about fidelity... faithfulness in any relationship is keeping a promise of your love and your true self as you have shown to the person... how would you feel when the woman you married is not the same after the marriage? then that is betrayal... right? or this is easier... "do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you..."
2007-03-24 03:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by lorms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're desiring other women, you are NOT in a position to be playing marriage. Because that's what you're doing - playing it.
If you love your wife as much as you say, you'll admit your feelings to her and allow her to make a decision on whether or not she wants to remain with a man as uncommitted as you are. Right now, you've got her under false pretenses. How would you like it if she was "watching and desiring" other males?
No, you're not "chicken" by not being unfaithful to your wife. You're using the one shred of decency you probably have.
2007-03-23 22:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by emmalina * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are in the same boat. Men are men. It is ok to admire other women...just don't act on it. It is not worth it. Please do not trade your life with some temporary pleasure. Believe me, if you do, you will regret it.
2007-03-23 22:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋