I came accross this question in mag i was browsing and loads of people, both single and married parents had very interesting points to make abt it. Personally I think two heads and two bank balances are better than one when it comes to raising kids, but only if the relationship between the couple is a healthy one. They dont necessarily have to be married, but marriage does give the kids and the couple some legal protection. what do you guys think?
2007-03-23 22:04:52 · 18 answers · asked by lushpoppy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A bit biased but as a married mum in a stable relationship I have to agree.It is heartbreaking when the kids have friends round from broken relationships and they never know who's house they will be at next ,mum's or dad's. Who they are going on holiday with and all sorts of stuff that mine never have to think about.I know a lot of you out there will give me the thumbs down,but I believe that a stable marriage is the right way to bring up children and if it aint stable then work at it as the kids are the most important.
2007-03-23 22:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by pups 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Biologically it takes 2 to make a child. It doesn't take a marriage to raise a child.
I'm married, but I don't believe that's the only way to raise kids.
Kids benefit from loving, nurturing, stable environments. Doesn't matter to them who provides it. I've seen people married because a child was coming only to divorce because they were never a great couple in the first place.
A child doesn't equal a marriage.
One of the happiest, smartest kids I know is being raised by her single Aunt.
What's most important is the child's well being. Period. No matter who the care giver is.
2007-03-24 05:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kris17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what, I have two sisters, each very different. One is married with two kids, the other is a single mother with two kids. Of course the married one has more money because there is another check coming every month, but in general, the single mother has much better behaved children. Its all in the parenting.
2007-03-24 05:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a married couple can usually offer a child more attention and a balance of attention (male & female) than a single parent. Of course, it just stands to reason that the couple should be living harmoniously, too.
But I feel strongly that any couple considering having kids should be married; they owe that much to the child.
2007-03-24 08:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how much love is there...marriage is only i good thing if you are in love with the person in the marriage with you. but i belive it is better to raise kids im a married household, but only if there is love other wise a non married home the best option, you don't want to show the child that being married is bad by not being in a good relationship, i could scare the child away from commetment in the long run
It is better to come from a broken home rather than to be in one...
hope it helps
2007-03-24 05:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Gower 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
marriage does not produce better kids, i am the child of a divorced couple that hated each others guts in the end, and while it was bad i am glad it did not happen with me and my brothers in the house with them all the time this was happening, at least it was over the phone. Whilst it is great if you have to loving and supporting parents in your life,the way our society is going this is less of the norm now. It is better to have one great parent than 2 lousy ones under the same roof.
2007-03-24 05:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, not particulary better, but it's easier than being a single-parent. I've seen single-moms, who did the most awesome job with their kids, but they struggled to make the ends meet, to have childcare available and a good job to feed their kids and what not.
I've been on both sides of the story, was a single-mom and now I'm remarried. For me personally, I feel I'm more relaxed now in a traditional setting than I was as a single-mom, but that's subjective.
2007-03-24 09:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by Chevrolet*Blazer*Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
was in an abusive marriage that's no good for kids then single had happy kids now good marriage and good kids so really it depends on the situation money is not everything sad really to hear a niece say I wish my parents were divorced friends in school have lots more because their parents are not together
2007-03-24 05:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by susan will of the wisp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, marriage gives the children security and stability. However, it is best to have one bank balance, with one of the spouses staying home with the children. They are totally worth the sacrifices one has to make!
2007-03-24 08:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it just depends on the parents
Speaking from experience life with my children is easier not being married
I'm raising 3 daughters by myself and it's easier without my ex around
My daughters have never been so happy and secure
2007-03-24 17:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋