I was v happy in my childhood though I didnt have a perfect or good family atmosphere but in my surroundings I found it. I mean I had it in my neighbours a family environment and I used to feel apart of them but this happiness was not for a long time, my family moved out from that place and shifted in a new place and house, I was around 9 yrs old then.
After that I suffered loneliness I didnt have a good frnd or frnd till the age of 19 then I started going to coll and then frnds came into my life.
Even today I dont have good family environment and unconsciouly I try to find that family in my frnds and where I feel I can find. My prob is I make my own stories and family atmosphere in my mind, where I create characters for myself, like a mother, father, sister, brother, lover and many other who cares for me and who loves me alot.
I want to know is it a healthy thing? The love, the family, the friends I want and I dont have I create them in my imagination, is it a good sign? pls hlp.
2007-03-23 21:59:51 · 6 answers · asked by lets_smile07 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You only get one chance on life. Do what makes you happy to live each day to the full (as long as it is legal and doesn't hurt anyone else that is!).
I think I have been very blessed. I had an amazing childhood and even though there were some full on grotty moments I have been able to put them in a locked place in my mind where, I hope, they will sit until the day I die.
You sound like a wonderful caring thoughtful human being. Your pain will have made you look for kindness where sometimes others are too busy to bother.Work on that side of you.
Use your need for a family to help you help others and you will be rewarded in lake fulls.
You are the lucky one, your imaginary family cannot hurt you unless you decide they are going to. I can think of plenty of others here who wish they had the opportunity!
Take care, be strong and be happy.
Wishing you, peace , love, light and hope Christine
2007-03-23 22:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your profile suggests you have asked 38 related questions since you joined on 3 - 3 - 07
You clearly have a deep problem.
You feel that the love you have for the girl is not returned. She may not be interested in a sexual relationship with you. Accept it and let go. She may have also sensed how obsessive and needy you can be - and is rightly running the other way.
You appeaer to be living in your own reality without due regard for others, unless it meets your own needs.
You talk of suicide
Please seek professional help - now.
2007-03-23 23:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have developed a survival technique that is helping you. There is nothing with that unless the fantasy replaces reality.
In the film Castaway, the only way he can cope with his lonely life is to paint a face on a ball & regard that as his friend...
he nearly looses his life when the ball drifts away in the ocean...
It is a real shame you feel the need to do this. I have gone through my life secretly wanting to be adopted. Perhaps if you talk more about your feelings, your isolation will fade?
I hope so. God bless XX
2007-03-23 22:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get what you want unless you can see yourself doing it or having it already. You are seeing the family that you want to have in your future. You will meet someone, get married and have children, make your own little family. You will be able to start over. Don't let the past bring you down, learn from it. You will have that family you dream of when it's time. You have been practicing in your mind so you'll know what to do when that day comes. Be happy!
2007-03-23 22:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up to reality. This make-believe attitude makes your life more difficult because your ideals are always far away from your reality. We, people, have this tendency, but it is a mistake.
We should always face our own reality and see what we can do in this environment, with these people who are in it. And it is on our side to make things easier by accepting them for good or for bad.
Hope you will manage successfully.
2007-03-23 22:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by inotherwords 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's o.k. to have an imagination; imagination lends to creativity. Keep it in perspective, though. I didn't have a very close family upbringing either. It took a while, but I learned to accept it and move on with my life.
2007-03-23 22:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋