if you are in a relationship and everything's ok--but there's one sort of a problem. and that is-- if the person you're with doesn't really find you funny to talk with or any of your stories to her makes her laugh, is it something to consider to be a hazard or an aspect in your relationship with this person to think about and maybe consider to be a reason to dedide to just break off with the relationship just so to make things easier for yourself and the person your with? need advice.
2007-03-23 21:54:46 · 10 answers · asked by ken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask her. That's the only way to find out.
2007-03-23 21:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is that issue more important to her than your love for her?
is that a big deal for her?
if it's not. then consider greater things other than your raised issue.
if this is big deal already, don't eagerly decide for a break off, you might resolve this problem with a humble and sincere conversation.
Tell her that you are not happy with her reactions.
It's only you who could answer your problem, i'm just here to enlighten you. You're the one who could really tell how much you love your girlfriend.
You might be too idealistic of a relationship. Remember, we're all persons, and no relationship is perfect. If you think jumping into another relationship might bring you more happiness, think a million times. Coz ive been like that, discontented, idealistic, had so many relationships because i've been a perfectionist, and start loosing hope whenever i see a floss.
So don't give up yet, it's hard regret a decision when you've ended it already, and if you didn't take enough time to decide well.
Pray to God, ask for His guidance, ask for strength, enlightenment, patience and understanding, maturity.
It is also said that it takes two to tango.
Just make sure you've done your very best in your relationship. You've done no harm to your partner, and all you have been doing is for her good sake and for your relationship's sake. But if you think your partner does not reciprocate, ask yourself still and communicate with her before deciding on a break off.
All can be well settled through good communication. Why in the first place have you settled with her if you can't bare the bad moments with her? You should be ready with all consequences no matter how hard they may be, and these are storms in a relationship.
Just reflect, would you be happy with her for the rest of your life? can this issue be resolved by the two of you? if so, go on and stick with her. if not, ask her what's her plan for your relationship. let the decision come from her, so you can say to yourself it's not you who is the problem in your relationship.
But let me tell you, you're the one who told that everything's ok except for that one thing - i consider that as only a mild problem. coz there are more severe problems in a relationship than what you are experienceing right now. Don't be too pressured on deciding. Let time heal, and let time come. Let God decide.
2007-03-23 22:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're the proverbial "she's just not that into you" predicament. You can't make someone feel for you what you feel for them, and you wouldn't want someone that you really didn't care for bothering you and insisting that you be with them even if it's not what you want. You see the signs, there is no connection, no building blocks for intimacy and no signs of long term interest. Just walk away and keep looking for that person that's going to think you're the greatest thing since sliced bread, and you'll feel the same way about her as well. It's the right thing to do because it is not easy. Save yourself the heartache and embarrassment and just break it off. From you description it seems like she won't be wondering why you don't call anymore.
Good luck and take care.
2007-03-23 22:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if everything is ok then why make an issue of the 'not so funny thing'? look, you cant expect a flawless relationship. this is just a little thing to put up with if it makes everything else right. However, if it bothers you a lot then talk it over.if she refuses to compromise, live with it or move out. That probably makes who she is just as you are you.
2007-03-23 23:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every man in this planet is Charlie Chaplin or Mr. Bean. Even serious minded people have a place here..
2007-03-23 21:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her family or friends if they hear her laugh. If not then you have to ask your self can I live with some one with out a since of humor.
2007-03-23 22:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard to say.. are you normally funny?... if so, then yes break it off..maybe she doesn't have a sense of humorl.... if you're not that funny, then it is not a reason because it'll be that way with everybody
2007-03-23 21:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it important to you that she finds you funny. dude it sounds like you have some codependancy issues. I suggest you get some proffesional help. as long as your codependant you will never have a working relationship.
2007-03-23 22:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by job e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you arent on the same page with her best to move on and stop wasting yoiur time
2007-03-23 21:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're indecisive and expect too much. relax and just be yourself. you'll notice when she's unhappy. just communicate at all times
2007-03-23 22:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by evo25zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋