My boyfriend's mom is gay it took him 9 mos to tell me even though i knew from day one. i laughed when he told me i cant believe he thought i didnt know.
she thinks i am uncomfortable with her sexuality because i dont confide in her, i dont confide in anyone, i am pretty shy especially when it comes to ppls parents.
we have been together over a year now and i am pregnant now she thinks i wont feel comfortable letting the baby stay with her and her girlfriend because i am a christian i guess...
yeah its against my religion but my religion also says tolerate and love everybody im not going to keep my child from her grandmother(s). i could care less who sleeps with whom in the world there are bigger issues.
i feel uncomfortable just going up to them saying "i just want u to know i'm ok with u being gay" especially since they never address it with me directly they always go thru my fiance.
2007-03-23 21:48:46 · 6 answers · asked by jean grey 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i know talking is different from confiding, thats the problem. we talk all the time. she thinks I have a problem because i dont ask her advice or for help stuff like that.
and i have to make a special effort because she THINKS that i have a problem with her sexuality, i dont, i never have, and i never will, i am very friendly as i would be with anyones mother THAT IS THE PROBLEM
please read the ?? before responding...
2007-03-23 22:08:27 · update #1
well done you, I'm a gay mum too and would be proud if you was my sons girlfriend,why not either let her see a copy of this question bcos it says it all .or just start discussing the baby with her ... saying things like how wud u feel about babysitting ur grandchild to give me a break occasionally or wats the baby gonna call you nan, grandma etc if she thinks you don't have a problem with her things hopefully will bcom easier between you include her partner too , good luck sweetie hope everthing goes well.
2007-03-25 00:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by casha1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So- she thinks you have a problem, and you won't trust her with the baby.
SO- go up to her RIGHT NOW and ask "Can I schedule you to take care of the baby on...?"
She gets to realise you don't have a problem, and you get a day to yourself. Remember to thank her when you pick up the baby.
No big scenes, no talk. Just actions that speak much louder- if done right.
2007-03-23 23:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Alan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ty talking to her about her sexuality, asking her questions like when did she reaslise it, how old was she when sh had her first girlfriend etcetc. That way she knows you don't have a problem with her sexuality, but you dont have to confide anything in her.
2007-03-23 23:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by chrisinrush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel like you have to make a special effort to make her feel comfortable because she's gay?
She's no different than anybody else, you don't have to make it a point to give her your approval. She'll know how you feel by the way you treat her.
2007-03-23 22:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really do tolerate their beliefs..then you should not really have an issue talking to them. *talking does not equal confide*. But yah grandparents (regardless of sexual orientation) are important, so please find a way to at least let gramma(s) know that you're cool w/ them..
2007-03-23 21:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by m34tba11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tongue kiss her...that should end her ideas that you are homophobic...
2007-03-23 22:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jon A 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋