my partner of 7 years moved away, me and our daughter were going to go and live with him, weve been arguing because he wants me to go and live with him now but im not sure, we havent spoken for a week, i usually do all the phoning but this time ive had enough not rang or text him, is it true you should let someone go to get them back? i know hes not happy and hes not sure moving away was the right thing to do, he was 40 on thursday and it does cross my mind is he having a mid life crisis? please help read my other questions to understand this problem more. thanks....
2007-03-23 21:33:27 · 11 answers · asked by ann_jacques 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Midlife crises can be hard. If you love him you should be there for him but at the same time not let him take advantage of you. Give it a little while and if he doesn't call than call him just to check up
2007-03-23 21:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Miranda S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my partner for 10 years and we have an 8 year old son together. 6 monthes ago we had a small argument about a family friend and it got blown totally out of proportion and he said he was moving out. Being stubborn i let him go thinking he wouldn't last longer than a few weeks and then would want to come home.
I would have said yes. Letting them go and do man things may help however now my partner lives in a new apartment with his mates, goes out clubbing a couple of nights a week and barely has time to see me and his son.
I now resent him and decided i need a break away from him to make my mind up. I went on holiday for a week without him and when i came back he was like a different person telling me he loved me and missed me so much but within a few weeks he was back to neglecting u again.
I think what i'm trying to say is that if they do go it can be good but if they get too independant and start living and building a new life without you in it then it can mean the end forever.
2007-03-24 06:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but i am confused, sorry for being 'thick' but i need things clarified before i can answer you!
is your daughter his daughter too?
do you normally live together as partners/married?
if so, why wouldnt you all be moving together??
or are you splitting up?
getting parental responsibility would be a good thing as he will have to take his 'weight' emotionally and financially etc. also means if you want to move far away or abroad, that he could challenge this. he will also be able to sign consent forms etc if your daughter falls ill whilst in his care which is useful!
from your notes/questions i cant work out if you're together or not, so i cant really offer much advice!
if you sen dmore info maybe i'll be able to help.
good luck, men are very tricky creatures to deal with!
2007-03-23 22:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make decisions when you're mad... All you need is to sit down and talk it over. Everything will be cleared if you guys will have a nice conversation. If he is acting a lil bit weird just understand him, he is your partner and you should know by now how his personalities and how to deal with it, if you wanna say something, tell him i know he will listen but do not talk when he is mad coz when a person is mad his ears a re close and try not to talk when you're mad coz you don't want to say something that you don't wanna say and might hurt him. If you guys need space so give it to each other and think about your daughter, don't let her live in a broken family since there are ways to solve your problems, just talk it over. He loves you and just wanna be with you.
2007-03-23 21:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him leave him to work things out for himself, as if you go there you may feel angry with him for feeling 'forced' into moving by him.
Keep it up and don't text or fone him till he starts to see how much he misses and loves you and his daughter.
When he does make him see that if he wants the relationship to start again yours and your daughter's needs ie not wanting to move, have to be considered too not just his
2007-03-23 21:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not try it out with him ,do not get rid of your house it seems both of you are not happy and it is worth a try 7 years is a long time to be together perhaps you will be much happier in new surroundings you won't know if you don't try
2007-03-23 22:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by susan will of the wisp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time...if he doesn't call you back after a while, call him. If being in the relationship isn't right for you all, then you can still be friends.
2007-03-23 22:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give the situation time!
2007-03-23 21:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure, let him go.
Ask yourself,are the arguments worth it?
2007-03-23 21:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him time. He'll come back.
2007-03-23 21:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋