Me and my sister are like a year and six months apart. She always tries to put me down all the time I cant even trust her. she went as far as trying to break me and my fiance up for her own revenge about me not letting her borrow my shoes! My mom says she's jealous because i'm younger and have more things going on for my self. I love my sister but she is just so heartless when it comes to me. I can ask her a simple question and shell answer me like if I'm crap. I cry sometimes because it hurts me alot. I hate the fact that she looks at me like competition and she is not happy when im doing good. She started rumors about me at school about personal things that only she knew i thought i could of trusted her with my secrets and she tells everyone, she slept with a guy that I used to talk too behind my back, she talks to my enemies like if they were her best friends. I dont get it why does someone want to hurt their own sister it sucks! I never done anything to hurt her need advice?
2007-03-23 21:26:40 · 12 answers · asked by Jade Marrie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey there,
First of all I am really sorry to hear such thing, simply because I am facing the same problem with my elder brother and I know how much does this hurt. Actually your sister thinks that she has the right to do whatever she likes but you don't and this is a kind of selfishness that your sister suffers from. This problem appeared out because of the way your parents raised your sister up, a thing that can't be changed now and it's almost over.The only solution is to IGNORE her at all, but at the same time don't try to hurt her or create problems to her and believe me one day she would come to you crying to and asking for your forgiveness.
2007-03-23 21:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tom S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, she def is jealous, and sees you as a point of competition. The best thing you can do is TALK TO HER. Tell her your feelings. Tell her exactly what you told us. Tell her that her happiness and success if a pride for you and she is the last person that you'd ever want to put down for your own good. Tell her that the same blood is running in your veins and your pain is hers too. Let her know that with more love and sisterhood comes a happier and less stressful life for both of you. I luv my sister and we have a very good relationship. I can imagine how hard it would be for me to deal with her if she was like your sister.
Let your sister know that you will be there for her, always, for any reason, to help her succeed in her journey of life. Take a vacation together and make it all emotional for her.
She might not want to listen to you, or be sarcastic about it, but have her hear your voice. Email her, leave her messages on her phone, talk to her face to face, and keep trying to get her to listen. She will, trust me
2007-03-23 21:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is called sibling rivalry..... which gets started at the childhood itself.
She being the first child, she was the queen of the house, and then you were born and then what happened, the focus shifted to you and she lost all the attention.....
Her fights with you nothing to do with you, but to get attention from the parents which she lost when you were born.
The only to way to handle is that to talk to her and listen to her complaints / or what she really wants to communicate.
She actually loves more than anyone else. But it is just that she is missing love in life................... Give her attention/ love/ compassion what ever is possible from your side and Hope that these petty fights shall disappear.b
2007-03-23 21:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Neo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally I. would stop having anything to do with her,maybe then she'll get the message,and there is definitely some thing wrong with her,she needs Proffional help.
2007-03-24 00:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is definitely jealous.. I was always jealous of my elder sister coz she was like an all-rounder and all, I can imagine if it was the other way around.. Don't give up on her.. She'll realize that she's really not doing good to herself by comparing herself to you.. Compliment her on things she can do that you can't.. That could help!
2007-03-23 21:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Freakazoid 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The reason is she knows your a winner and that she is a loser and it is the only way she knows how to make herself feel better. Pity her.
2007-03-23 21:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, You go ask your sister, "Why would she be like that to you? " Flesh and blood! Go talk to your parents too.
Some times we as humans are quicker to be mean to the most we love! And in your case your sister towards you.
Tell her to grow up.
2007-03-23 21:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Learn how to get the upper hand. Put her in her place. Fight dirty if you have to.
2007-03-23 21:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Aww...come here and give Nitz a hug.
2007-03-23 21:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Nitz Frugent 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
they say, "don't get mad. get even". give your sis a taste
of her own medicen. become successful in life and that'll
piss her off more. get married. don't have kids and become
someone.
2007-03-23 21:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋