I mean with all the changes life throws at you, with the changes in yourself? What if one changes and is completely different from the person you fell in love with? Is it really fair to expect one person to stay with you till the very end?
2007-03-23 20:48:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if things happened like that in life everyone would be so happy and no one would get divorce. i think everyone has that special someone that they want to spend the rest of their lives with. but unfortunately life always throws a rock in there somewhere to mess it all up. if i was you i would think about it but i would not sit there thinking that this person u are with is guarnteed to be there with u for the rest of ur life. Sometimes things happen. they may die, or find someone else, they might break your heart, find another job in another state. some things just happen like that. but i think if two people really and i mean truely love one another and is willing to stick together thru the hard times no matter what life throws at them. then i would say yea anything is possible.
2007-03-23 20:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by superstar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you marry, you make a vow not only to the one you are marrying but to God as well. Ppl do change there is no doubt about that. But in a marriage you should be changing together, not just for yourself, but as one. First thing you should know that, before saying I do, you both know that marriage will be a battle everyday, and that you will always have to work to keep things strong.
There will always be changes and you can't change that. God throws things your way to see how you handle them. If you believe in him, you can get through anything. God doesn't want anyone to be alone, and You shouldn't divorce unless one committs adultry, however God would not want anyone to stay in a marriage where one, bears false witness or is being abused. That would not be fair to anyone. If you love one another , you will always find a way to work things out.
If you can't resolve some the problems that are thrown your wya, go to counseling.
2007-03-24 08:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
anyone who is in love would naturally feel staying with the person for the rest of his/her life...but we should always keep an open mind and acceptance of the changes including letting go when it ever happens. coming & leaving is all where we are heading. Its just a matter of who's next on the list... we should always make the best of today, enjoy & be thankful- be it material, relationships, children, recognitions, etc..as tomorrow we may not have the same thing again.
yes, its ok to expect to be with the other person forever but leave reservations for the changes.
2007-03-24 04:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by jables 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at one time it was right to expect to spend the rest of your life with one person. But unfortunately, it is no longer a reality, since intolerance is great, and no one, or most people, would rather separate, or divorce since it is so easy today, then to work at the problems that arise over the years. So today the vows should be, until divorce do us part.
2007-03-24 03:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only what you make yourself out to be.Love is but a memory.It only exists in the past and today.The ideology of a lasting love is rather simple.To remain a constance.You have to fall in love with that person each day.If a person finds or feels the need to change then truly they have never learned who they were in the first place.That or they have never loved them self.Being able to love and know yourself is the first step finding another to love you as you are and who you can love back equally is the second step.As I said love exists in your memory.I knew who I was when my wife met me.I know all the reasons why she fell in love with me to keep that love and to have her love me each day it is my job to remain as best I can to being that man.For if I change and become someone different then how could I expect her to fall in love with me again.As long as I desire her to love me then why would I ever wish to change.If you have to change who you are do to the things life throws at you perhaps you never really knew yourself in the first place.If this is the case then how could you ever expect another to love you for your life time or you them.
2007-03-24 04:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by ddstantlerstill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not, that's what marriage is all about. If you were my wife you'd scare me with questions like this. A marriage is suppose to be forever, you grow together, then you age and grow old. What would you expect?
I've been married to my first love for 51 years. We have five children, 15 grand children and three great grand children. We look forward to all of them, what a life I wouldn't change it.
2007-03-24 03:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people do change, and maybe u are just seeing the real them, because at the start of any relationship, people put their best out there, make promises they don't keep. it is right to want to spend your life with that person, but often times it just isn't meant to be, as people's expectations get in the way and things happen where its just not possible to remain with that person forever.
2007-03-24 08:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is right, but now a days rarely happens.
We grew up in a culture where we get what we want, and if we can't we figure out a way to get it.
People have grown less tolerant and loving is getting cheap. I would like to believe there is a person who would spend the rest of her life with me, I just don't except it.
2007-03-24 03:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you stay honest with yourself and your partner (and they extend you the same courtesy), there is no reason that two people could not learn from each other, grow and change together until old age.
2007-03-24 04:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever noticed that the marriage vows are before God? They say that you will do just that "till death do us part" leaves very little wiggle room if you have made the promise to not only your spouse but God. Suggest if you are not ready to make a real commitment don't play at it.
2007-03-24 03:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋