Ladies, at what age did you start believing that if you were married you would need to obey your husband?

Question

and that he would be the head of the household? I am curious to know what age women start thinking like this.

Answer 1

I've never started believing I needed to obey my husband even though I am a Christian and have read the Bible from front to back and am a born again, saved Christian lady.

I do believe that the husband is the head of the house but in so being, he as a Christian man, is a good man and in so being is a leader, not a boss.

Answer 2

I don't think that I have to obey him... but respect and love him. it is a mutual thing... I didn't think that my husband should be the head of the household until i was married and had my first child.. then, that's what we put on the tax forms. I do stay home with the kids, even though i finished college, and was a teacher for 4 years. I think that a stay at home mom makes for a happier, less stressed family all together.

Answer 3

I started a 12

Answer 4

Thought that at 19. got married at 21 concept was dead before 22. Had a child and realised that obeying husband and handing over all money earned was aq [pipe dream. You have to look after yourself and have a career that you can fall back on at any time.

Need to be able to have some independence and your own money even if you are married to some one with good looks and a thick wallet.

good luck

Answer 5

Sorry but I have never been in that much of a delusional state of mind to think that the man married or not should run the household. Did you just wake up from a massive head injury only to find that it's 1940 anymore??!! The answer to your question is NEVER no self respecting woman of any age, believes in the archaic practice of the man being in charge. And if for some strange reason the man does think this it is only because we, the women are letting him think that, just to let him feel important for a little while!!

Answer 6

2 years ago (25) it came naturally dont get me wrong Im not repressed but I love the fact that my hubby is a manly man. I grew up with all boys I was raised like a boy after 7 years of doing that "independant" crap I sat back and let him take the leads. AND FYI we OBEY eachother.... It goes both ways

Answer 7

I am on my b/f's log in and I just had to answer this question......Never!
I was bought up in an environment where my Dad treated my Mum as an equal so those terrible thoughts never crossed my mind at any age.
A woman doesn't marry a man to obey him and if your hoping that then you have another thing coming.

Answer 8

Not until I was about 54.

Western women are not taught to think this way. When I was we were taught all about feminism and playboyism by communist infiltrators known as Betty Friedan, Gloria Steinem and Hugh Hefner. We were taught we were equal to that lowlife scum species men. Men were taught we women were just there for sex outside of marriage and to be avoided at all costs if freedom is valued.

We were taught that the other sex was the enemy. Feminism and playboyism, on the surface deadly enemies, but had the same goal, to break up the institution of marriage by sewing the seeds of contraversy between the sexes. The goal was to have us hating each other in a society in which men are basically useless and women are in charge.

By feminism I do not refer to equal work for equal pay. THAT is only honest and right.

I refer to the fact that women were robbed of the chance to be wives and mothers. They were taught it was wrong to be a wife and mother and that natural fulfillment only came in a career. Little did we know this was also a tax grab by those who own the Federal Reserves, the Rockefellers and Rothschilds among others.

Men were robbed of the chance to grow up and be a man because there was suddenly little role for him in the family, The male sex is systematically being debased and degraded by the media to enhance the image of male as big dumb dupe or violent abuser. Nowhere does one see functional families on television anymore. It is all flip bright young things flitting from bed to bed without commitment.

A woman needs a man stronger than she is if she is to be truly happy. I know this myself. After a lifetime of being a "liberated woman" and hopping in and out of relationships, I finally met the man powerful enough in spirit to tame me. He took 4 years to soften me and alter my thinking without my even knowing what he was doing.

He was feminizing me. I fell in love with this man. Strong, older, the first man with whom I felt safe and truly cared for. Such men alas do not live in the west. He grew up in a culture where men were dominant and it showed in his every movement. I learned how to be Ships Captain to his Captain, and enjoy it.

I never lost a darn thing other than feeling confused about relationships. I learned what felt right and that was to give him the last word. But also this was a MAN not a BOY. Men here, as with girls, have lost the example of families functioning as a unit. We all lose out.

I also found this man made me feel like a WOMAN something I had never felt before. I learned the true power of a woman is behind the throne. Not for all women but for me, that works. What the heck is a "metromale" anyhow? Gimme a "male" any day!

Young women, my dear, will not think this way for awhile. We have to reestablish the family again for them to SEE it in action. Women need to learn men and women are equal, but since their roles differ within the home, but that he has the final call in things. However, that does not give him the right to be abusive or stupid!

I am sorry we accepted what was taught us so easily. I am also angry. These beliefs have left the American family in ruins.

I am still a feminist but my feminism is one in which males and females are EQUAL only their natural obligations to the family are different due the the basic needs of human nature. Hers to make a home of the house he builds.

By the way, I will add, the man does not deserve to be head of the household if he has no backbone, does not pull his weight, abuse drugs, whatever. He is not being a man then, he is being a child and deserves to be treated as such.

http://www.rense.com/general74/fem.htm
Feminism Can Be Cured - If Diagnosed Early

http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Evils%20in%20America/Feminism/gloria_steinem-feminism.htm
Gloria Steinem: How the CIA Used Feminism to Destabilize Society

http://www.savethemales.ca/001904.html
How the Rockefellers Re-Engineered Women

http://www.savethemales.ca/000165.html
Playboy and the (Homo) Sexual Revolution

http://www.savethemales.ca/000817.html
Sexual "Liberation" is Illuminati Subversion

http://www.savethemales.ca/000499.html
The Young Lady is a Tramp

http://www.savethemales.ca/031001.html
American Communism & the Making of Women's Liberation

I just read all these answers and am amazed how few people "get" that this is NOT submission, this is NOT abuse, this is NOT giving up of power, this is NOT enforced cruelty. This is the way families were run for thousands of years and men on the whole did very well as HEAD of the household, woman as HEART. Their love creates the SOUL of the family.

Stop competing ladies!

Answer 9

My 1st marriage lasted 5 1/2 yrs because he believed I should "obey" his every commandment.
My 2nd marriage has lasted 24 yrs and still going strong because this husband does not treat me like that! I never have to "ask" him for his permission for anything. Of course, my respect for him and our marriage, would never allow me to do anything that might hurt him or our marriage!
It's not about "obedience"--it's about respect.

Answer 10

At no any age, even as married woman, we are still individuals, and if we have to agree on anything, it will be a matter of discussion and compromising. It takes both hands to clap.