I am filing for divorce from my husband because he was abusive to me in many ways. Nothing I did was ever good enough.. Not the food I cooked, the sex I gave(even when I didn't want to), the way I cared for our 2 kids, the friends I had, NOTHING.
I just happened to be online one day with my friend and we found a really amazing guy. He loves me for who I am, asks for me to just sit back and relax, wants me to have everything I ever wanted, and is a really good father to his children and helps me with mine..
My question is, am I wrong for living with the man from the internet while still married, and is anyone else in a situation like this??
2007-03-23 20:24:06 · 14 answers · asked by babyangeleyez17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes we have tried marrage counselimg with two different counselors. and I have suffered thru a year and a half extra when I knew it wasn't gonna work...
2007-03-23 20:35:54 · update #1
Johnson L please do not answer my questions anymore if all you are going to be is an arrogant @$$
2007-03-23 20:45:08 · update #2
No, you're not wrong. It doesn't matter how you met the guy, and what had gone on between you and your soon-to-be ex-husband. What matters is that you had thrown in the towel and headed out the door; you're getting divorced - don't you think this makes your wedding vows null and void? Do what you're comfortable with; leave your soon-to-be-ex in the past, and try to build your future.
There's nothing wrong with meeting people on the internet; this is how I met my husband. Good luck.
2007-03-23 20:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion, Its only wrong if you aren't honest. The man you live with knows your still legally married and the soon to be ex, knows that you are involved with someone else. Then all is good. Its just a matter of filing the paper work, to a marriage that had already ended. But because you are still legally married everything he does and you buy or have is jointed. So to avoid a mess, I would file sooner than later. They have free services at the court house, that will assist you and beside all of that you will feel better about your current situation and wont have anything in the middle of something good.
2007-03-24 03:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea to start a relationship till you have finished the one you are in.Though you say you have filed papers your divorce isn't final.That said anything you do now can affect your divorce or the out come there of.Anything relationship of worth is worth waiting for.If this other man is all you think him to be then certainly there is no need to rush.
Finish the relationship you are in now before placing yourself into another.
2007-03-24 03:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by ddstantlerstill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to piss you off but if your screwing someone else what ever you say means nothing.
All your reasons are for why it is okay to screw someone else not why you should not be married.
If you were saying all this stuff with no one else in the picture then we would listen. Your not trying and have not tried to save your marriage. You went to the computer to find what you wanted instead of fine tuning what you already had in your bed.
2007-03-24 04:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey:
You are not wrong,in life we need happiness, well I am in a similar relationship so I can say that I do understand what u r going through.
Its not fair for women to get the raw end and expect to stay,u go girl n live ur life!
luv sanam
2007-03-24 04:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with 'free' above me.
i honestly think you should take time away and not start up another relationship...
even if this guy is THE guy. like the real thing. if he is he'll wait
yes your husband is not anything you want so you have to leave him. but your relationship created 2 children. and to honor them... i just think you should let time tell everything.
aside: i think to be on the safe side of things-- if i have to ask "is it wrong for me to do this.." then i usually feel something saying it's not right. even if it IS the rightest thing ever... just to be safe... id wait
EDIT: i forgot to answer-- im sorry but YES it's wrong. divorce may be a formality... but your marriage was not. it was an oath. if anything is sacred-- it's at least let one thing go before starting anew. it's fair to your husband (who you obviously dont like) AND your new guy. and your kids.
2007-03-24 03:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by sarahthetran 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think its wrong. it sounds like the marriage is over except for the formality. If your happy now thats the most important thing. Of course if you wanted to get married again then you would have to wait until your officially divorced.
2007-03-24 03:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by G Money 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually yes
your not divorced till the papers are signed...
so technically you are cheating
I am sorry your husband is abusive
Did you get marriage couseling?
Did you both give your 100% to make it work
if not sounds like you are going in the right direction
2007-03-24 03:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've got to be kidding? on the Internet? yes, your cheating in a way and sooner or later your going to get together with this mystery man, to see if he really who he is if for anything else and things are going to happen. You may not be happy with what you find and in fact, it may be worse then what you have.
Remember, you don't really know him, only on the net. He may be a Jack the Ripper.
Why don't you get involved in a church group, maybe see a consular and see where that brings you instead of someone you don't know.
2007-03-24 03:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What you are doing is really horrible for your kids. Get divorced if that is what is going to happen, then you can start dating again when your youngest child is 18. Time for you to be a MOTHER and start thinking about your kids, instead of being selfish.
2007-03-24 08:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋