being insecure?

Question

how do i stop being insecure about my husband?i love him to death,but it is killing me living in insecurity.good answers please,,i've been married for 7 years and we have 2 kids together.please help me someone!thank you...

Answer 1

You must have reason why you feel insecure about your husband. You didn't mention anything so... People are insecure when they are scared, or their self-esteem is low, or they lack self-confidence. Are you afraid your husband will up and leave you, or fool around on you? If you feel your self-esteem is low, or you lack self-confidence, you need to re-evaluate your self, and make some changes to yourself or your environment. Get a job, a hobby, something to lift your spirits. One thing that is very important is communication with your husband about how you feel.

Answer 2

I was the same way for awhile because I envied my husband's past love affairs ( all before our marriage). We talked about my insecurity , communication and my eventual acceptance that my difference from the rest of the lot ( his past conquests) was the reason he chose me over so many have just been the catalyst to my new found self realization . It helps too, that my husband make me feel loved and wanted in so many little ways each and everyday that doubts never cross my mind about where I stand in our relationship.

Answer 3

I don't know of any "practical" steps you can take to stop yourself from feeling insecure. I came to many realizations through life experience. One aspect of it is to realize that you CAN be just fine without your husband. When you feel that you're with this person because you *choose* to be, not because you *have* to, it boosts your self-confidence. My husband and I are both very independent, and are well-aware of the fact that each one of us can survive just fine without the other; this makes our bond stronger. Both of us feel that the other person is here because they really *want* to be, not because they're forced to by some external circumstances - and this takes a lot of guesswork out of the relationship. Less guesswork=more certainty=less insecurity.

I'm not sure *why* you're feeling insecure. Could it be that he's given you a reason to feel this way? Do you have a gut feeling about something? It could be that your insecurity is a reaction to his behavior. But, if you think that it's all "in your head" - try to become more independent; develop your own interests, hobbies; explore new things. Try to change things about yourself you're unhappy with - i.e., if you have gained weight, try to get back in shape, etc. You have to be comfortable with yourself. Being pro-active about such things usually boosts one's self-esteem, especially when you start seeing the results. It puts you in control. Good luck.

Answer 4

Insecurity comes from within--you have to commit to dealing with what's inside you that's causing the insecurity. While more detail about your situation would help me answer more precisely, the best advice I can give (what worked for my husband and I) is to get a book entitled "Conscious Loving," by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. The book is a wonderful way of figuring out what's really going on inside of you, and how to deal with it on a daily basis. It's short, simple, and common sense--and did wonders for my hubby and I!

Good luck!

Answer 5

Get some friggin' self esteem and stop putting the blame on your husband. It's your fault you are insecure and it has nothing to do with your husband. Get yourself some counselling.

Answer 6

i haven't been married but this maybe help full to you.my ex fiance was like that and now we are broke up. on and off but i had the same problemas u and it drove us apart. it's hard for guys to get over it. try talking to himand say u want to go to couple counsling and go from there.does he think u are cheating? sign baby gurl....

Answer 7

i know this sounds stupid. But have some faith woman!
go out to dinner and do more things together as a family.

Answer 8

i am the same way