2007-03-23 20:07:50 · 21 answers · asked by miss amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you could walk away from him that easy, are you sure that you love him?
2007-03-23 20:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are already considering a time to leave then are you sure he is what you really want.Is there any particular reason he has given as to why he doesn't wish to get married.It is apparent that you aren't completely happy at the moment,though I wonder if it is only because he wont commit to an I do.
If the relationship isn't yielding what you desire then why have you endured it for 3 years.If marriage is that important to you perhaps he doesn't fully understand.If you don't see or can't see the relationship going the direction you dream of is there really much point to drag it out.
The only key I know to a successful relationship is knowing what it is you desire in another and then finding it and never settle for almost.
2007-03-24 04:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by ddstantlerstill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You walk away when you decide for yourself that you want to be married. If marriage is an important part of the equation for you - you are wasting your time being involved with a man who doesn't feel the same. Stay with him ONLY if you can accept that you two will never be married. If this is unacceptable to you - time to walk away is now.
2007-03-24 03:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, now is the time! 3 years is more than enough of your time wasted. If he isn't going to want to marry you now, he's not going to change his mind in the future.
Go out and find yourself and that special someone that's just waiting to marry you will come and take you by the hand one day. And you'll never look back!
Walk out of this relationship with your head held high, I wish you luck!
2007-03-24 05:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kris17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, would be a good time. If he's held you up for three years why wait, he'll keep you on a string, he's getting what he wants, isn't he. Why buy the cow, when the milk is free, to put it bluntly. I told my daughter this after twelve years of waiting around, he owned everything, she was there. He went to the court house right away, they got married within a week. She had his baby, he wanted his name on it, she told him "no" they weren't married. It didn't take long.
2007-03-24 03:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is THE one area of life to not mess up. Do this right, even if it takes a lot of patience and work, otherwise you will regret it.
There will need to be the drawing of boundaries, agreement on major issues, agreed upon ways of settling disputes, and so on. If it takes even more years to get all of that sqared away, it is well worth it.
Wondering whether to walk away after 3 years is a bad sign that you're not ready for marriage. If I were him, I would have cold feet over that alone. You might want to show that you're willing to work WITH him on this, rather than to work him over. It would show that you might be ready for marriage. I would recommend starting there.
Good luck
2007-03-24 03:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about why he doesn't want to get married before any decisions. Is he afraid thing will change? Is he not sure if you are the one? What is his reason/ If he has a valid reason then you can work through it. If he just doesn't want to or if after 3 years he isn't sure then it's past time to leave.
2007-03-24 11:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now. Honey, you've been together this long. If he's not willing to give you the ring and his last name by now, it's not going to happen. My guess is that you two have been sleeping together, so he's getting it for free. He's playing you. If marriage and kids is what you'd like, then you need to move on. It's not happening with this guy. I know that's harsh and probably not what you want to hear but it's the truth.
Good luck Now move on!
2007-03-24 03:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it so important? Do you really need that piece of paper? A lot of people do not get married these days, its just a hassle and cost too much money. Stop dwelling and enjoy the relationship, don't ruin it with nagging him until he leaves and obsessing over something that is really small.
2007-03-24 03:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by charice266 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yesterday. he does not want what u want. be realistic and dont waste anymore of ur time trying to convince him or changing his mind. its been three years and he is not there yet.......just leave. my bro did the same with his gf. they ve been together for almost 8yrs and she just stayed and she is so mad and bitter but where is she gonna go now? she is stuck, she has no options. she has invested so much time and nrg in the rlshp that she just cant leave. u still have hope. again just get out now while u can
2007-03-24 03:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by braille 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will walk away when you have had enough. And only you know when you've had enough. My enough may not necessarily be your enough. Look at the longevity of the relationship. Is it worth it? If not, leave. If so, stay and wait, and work it out.
2007-03-24 03:29:16 · answer #11 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋