My family thinks that my fiancee needs to step up to the plate. Im the only one working right now and while my family is doing so much even letting us stay with them since my fiancee's parents dont like black people, he basically wont go look for a job unless i just say he we r going to go look for jobs today he also acts really immature he also lately has been telling me im irresponsible and that i dont care about anyone but myself but like i said im the one working supporting us with my Avon job which isnt much but is enough to pay our storage and HIS computer payment, our car is out of line, my parents would like some help although the dont nag or anything but i would like to help them out especially while im living in there house and like i said they think that im doing all the work and hes doing nothing and when i used to disagree with them today when they said it i thought well maybe he is i have an idea maybe i should start taking charge and saying this is what we r going to do
2007-03-23 19:58:40 · 5 answers · asked by renee_0102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree with your family. I also suggest that you reconsider getting married to someone so irresponsible and immature. I think you deserve better.
2007-03-23 20:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by Winnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reread what you wrote and you will see that you're frustrated as well as your family. And with good reasons. Stay calm and really think if this is what you want, someone to order around, immature, he won't do anything for you, and has no good prospects for the future together other than being supported by you, and for now, by your family as well.
How long have you been with him? Has he been without a job all this time? Beware because there are people who just date nice people so they can have a place to stay or someone to do their laundry, cook their meal, and other stuff.
Please don't marry anyone until you both have a place to stay away from parents, and both of you are working. Reconsider this relationship and know that he's not the only guy who will like you, there are plenty of fish in the sea, right now may just not be the time to settle down.
2007-03-24 03:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's this lazy now wait til you get married. Better yet throw the loser out pawn the ring and his computer and give half the money to your parents if that's what you want to do with the money and apologize to your parents for your temporary insanity for thinking of marrying such slacker. At this rate he'll be pimping you out inside of three months after the wedding.
Don't Marry the bum until he holds down a job for at least a year or more. And excuse my bluntness but cut him off ........................ from your financial help until he gets a job. If that doesn't motivate him he won't ever be worth the trouble.
2007-03-24 03:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by ScootersVoice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all your parents want is for you to not work so hard you if you fiance isnt gonna get a job than you should postpone the wedding and until he gets his act straight then if that doesnt work you shouldnt get into anything you know you cant handle. If his parents dont like black people thats their problem, tell them that it doesnt matter what race i am but if im gonna be a part of this family than you cant judge me just because the color of my skin but actually get to know you more. Good luck with your problem
2007-03-24 03:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her, if it isn't right, it isn't right, dont try to push it, move on, go find a new chick, they r a dime a dozen!!
2007-03-24 03:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Markoo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋