I have a class with 2 girls who are friends, & we sat at the same table & I talked to them and we became kind of friends, but not the kind you'd call. But then about 2 weeks ago our teacher moved us to different tables, and then around 4 days ago one girl just started to ignore me. The other one is also acting pretty frosty, but not quite as mean but she still won't talk to me. But this girl who ignores me doesn't look at me, doesn't answer me when I say hi or try to talk, and doesn't even smile when I smile at her. And then today when I walked in the classroom she was already there, and when she saw me she gave that kind of loud sigh people do when someone they don't like appear. I've never been mean or rude to her or any of her friends and she has no reason to be acting this way, but it really bugs me because this has gone to the point of pure dislike. I don't want anyone to feel about me this way. Please help.
2007-03-23 19:57:04 · 8 answers · asked by Kaylie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hmmm . . . If she doesn't answer when you say 'hi' or try to talk to her, then that eliminates direct conversation to find out what is going on.
The other girl's behavior is a red flag that she may have a serious personality problem, because it seems most decent people would at least acknowledge a direct attempt at communication. Hypothetically, from this limited information, since you sound very sweet ("I don't want anyone to feel about me this way" & trying hard to guess what you could have done wrong) and really have no idea what you could have done, and because this person sounds like she has a possible personality problem, I bet you didn't really commit any major sin. In fact, even if this girl finally fessed up about why she is being rude, you might not put much stock into what she says. Intuitively, this scenario stinks of a cruel/narcissistic person being rude to a sweet, naive person . . . I hope you won't let it get to you too much.
It is human nature to want to be liked/accepted, but I think it is important to be choosey about whose opinion counts.
How old are you & the other girl?
2007-03-23 20:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by alma_jolie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why you're really so worried about it... Are they the only girls @ your school?! From what I've come to find out people will dislike you regardless of what you do/don't do. Don't you have other and more important things to worry about other than why some girls are acting all shady? Grades? Homework? College? Those are the things that matter most. But if she's making all these nasty noises when you come around and it does bother you, I would suggest to you that you ask her what her problem is. I'm telling you right now, you better let her know what's up. Other than that, I wouldn't even worry about it.
2007-03-24 03:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible these girls were told you said something mean about them by someone out to hurt you or them. You said you weren't close friends, not the kind you call. But my guess is you were nothing but a mere convenience to listen to their stories about themselves as long you sat at their table, but now that the seating has been changed they no longer "need you" to be a sidekick which it sounds like you were. My 16 year old daughter encounters the same situation whenever a new semester starts and her classmates change. The former "friends" disappear when she is no longer in any of their classes.
Look, don't sweat it. These girls have shown you they are superficial. Cut your losses now and find yourself real friends. You sound like a nice girl, but you can't please everyone and you'll only drive yourself into a depression if you try.
2007-03-24 03:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by karen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Family by chance; friends by choice' What's so important about being these girls friends? Are they even worth the effort for them to like you? you have done nothing wrong. It's them with the problem. And if they've got a problem with you then they're just gonna have to deal with it. Try making different friends. Find people who are kinder and with the same interests and if these girls bug you so much don't talk about them behind your back. If you've got a problem with them you've got to go straight to the problem. That means talking to them firmly. If it still doesn't work; Stuff them.
2007-03-24 03:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Gumby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that they just don't like your face, hairstyle or something of that sort. Other thing maybe that someone has told something to her very offensive of you. Huh! but everyone is not Knuckles that they can live alone. They are not your friends, they are flatterers or people like crocodile tears.
Friend has a full form & that is, "First Relation In Earth which Never Dies". They are not something of that kind.
Try not to ignore them. She will feel sorry about what she has done. Other alternate is that find new friends. Someone who likes you. Go..find a friend. Good luck in your journey of life!
2007-03-24 03:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Shreyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they think you requested to be moved. Try to find out if this is the case. If not, it may be time to seek out new friends. God Bless.
2007-03-24 03:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by lilbet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do not want to be your friend. Take my advice, it's just a stupid thing that kids do.
2007-03-24 03:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Scpwnz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore them, make new friends, they not worth it
2007-03-24 03:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋