My b/f of 3 years just proposed 2 me over the phone and I love him but I told him that I wasn't ready yet Im 17 so i said i want to go to college and he was making me feel bad and now i do cause i really love him but now i know the relationship wont be the same nomore what should i do is it really my fault???
2007-03-23 19:44:59 · 9 answers · asked by secretgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him you don't want anyone else, but you don't want to get married just yet because you already have too much to do & you wouldn't feel right getting married when you wouldn't be able to devote as much time to your marriage & him as you would like to.Try to make him understand your reasons for staying single.
2007-03-23 19:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't your fault, as it is him. You know what you want, and you are too young to get married, whether you love him or not. You have goals you want to meet, and you should meet the goals you have set for yourself. If you aren't taking care of yourself, and meeting your own needs, you aren't going to be able to meet someones else's needs either. He wants to make you feel bad because he wants what he wants right now! By the way, you don't say how old he is? but he sounds about your age too, or maybe even a few years older. But none the less, what is his goals in life? Does he want to go to college? Does he have a job that can support you and him if and when you do get married? Where are you going to live? All of these questions needs to be answered before you get married, otherwise,you are right, it will never be the same again, and you will loose the relationship. This isn't your fault, he needs to grow up.
2007-03-23 20:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your fault at all. You are being realistic. If he truly loves you and is MATURE enough to be asking to marry you, he should be mature enough to see that at 17 you are way too young to marry now. You are not telling him no to marrying him, just not right now you have plans and good ones he needs to respect that. Go to college, if you decide to marry and THEN go to college, you probably won't b/c you will be married, then kids, etc. Stay on track and again if he loves you he will and should understand. Just give him a little time too, he may just be a little hurt right now. But, again, it is not your fault and you are making the right choice. The person you are right now at 17 is nowhere near the person you will be at 20 or even 25 after all the college and "growing up" is done. God Bless!
2007-03-23 19:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not your fault.You are 17 and good for you that you want to go to college.If he loves you enough to propose then he will love you enough to wait! ! Question for you... how old or how much older is your b/f?
You both can still be engaged as you both can be engaged and still build a solid foundation for your future and the rest of your lives.If he can't understand that then he might now be the right guy for you, as much as it sucks to hear that.
It's only my opinion but I think you need to sit down with him and tell him that you do love him;and do want to marry him(it you in fact do);but you think you BOTH should wait a while for the actual ceremony and make sure that you have the career and financial aspect of "your future TOGETHER set a little more" Take it from a older,not so but a bit wiser girl-money is the root of ALOT of problems in relationships.
I wish you joy and happiness in your future.
2007-03-23 20:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by bjustnape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing.Your to yung to get married you should go to school get that done and then think about marrieg.If he really loves you he will stand by you and wait if he dont then it never would of made it a year.Good luck with your schooling
2007-03-23 22:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Leo M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel like you should then dont, im kinda in the same boat as you and im questioning my relationship with my finace but even though you love him you should really think about it is you want, good luck!
2007-03-23 19:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by renee_0102 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi....no dear it's not your fault...you are too young to get married, you need to discover life, go to collage, make new friends....but marriage ?! i don't think that it's the right thing to do now....think about it and talk to your parents and to your boy friend... tell him that you two can get engaged for a couple years then when the right time comes for marriage you will know it....if he really loves you, he will wait and he will understand......Good luck......and have a nice day
2007-03-23 19:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First,
What kind of a person that's in love you proposes to you "OVER THE PHONE"? And what kind of person that's in love with you makes you feel bad when you tell him you're not ready yet? Move on to the next loser please.
2007-03-23 19:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by videodj2006@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-03-23 19:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by hello 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋