2007-03-23 19:41:57 · 46 answers · asked by SM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not in that position, but my parents are.
I would believe the most hardest/painful but growing experience is finding peace within yourself, knowing that the other person didn't make you, simply helped you discover some things. And realizing that a divorce doesn't mean that either of you are a failure, it's a simple feedback that the timing or people weren't working out.
2007-03-23 19:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. International 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Taking the children from a stable relationship to an unstable one. Some parents can't see how it affects children, but it does and will forever. Some children believe that they are to blame for the break up. A lot of times both parties try to work out their differences for the children. I hope this will happen in your case since it sounds like you are going through a divorce.
2007-03-30 04:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it was trying to figure out what went wrong...Where and when did the Love I once had for this person go? How did it just be gone like that? How come it was fun and I was so happy to start with and then all the sudden it is gone...Because I really don't think people spend enough time working on there marriage as they do working on the divorce..really stop and think about it...we wont spend the time talking to a lawyer and telling them all our problems...but if counseling was mentioned if at all its a no, I,am not talking to no stranger about our problems.....its funny but it happens.....so in closing I would have to say just trying to figure out how is all fell apart to begin with....where did the love go? did you ever really love? do people fall out of love?...good luck Hun....write if you need me...GOD BLESS....ttyl
2007-03-29 14:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The separation of heart, time, and possessions. Multiply that by 100 when children are involved. Divorce is painful for all involved. Friends , Family , and Neighbors too.
2007-03-30 17:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Betty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most painful part to me was "what could I have done better to save it?" But I realized I did almost everything and he just wasn't interested in me. After I got over it, I am better and looking forward to life without wondering "what if." If you are going through this right now, I am sorry to hear that.
2007-03-30 08:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by beaddiva 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting go. It is the letting go of the dreams, expectations and the image of what you were as a couple. I also think that rediscovering who you are outside of the roles that we played in the relationship is very hard. Forgiving and moving on are the hardest tho'.
2007-03-31 17:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never gotten a divorce but I would have to say if there were kids involved then that would probaly be the hardest part.
2007-03-23 19:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lacie Kay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me it was the lonliness. Silence can really be deafening. You don't know where you belong any more. You don't want to be home, but you don't want to go out. You lose your self-confidence. You are broke all the time. You start noticing how everyone else seems so happy. To sum it up -- the whole situation pretty much sucks!
2007-03-29 08:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by TexasDolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming to terms with the cause. Was it you? How was it you? What now? The hardest part is facing yourself.
2007-03-31 19:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by chuck_flacks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because no divorce can wipe out memories of intimate moments shared together. Every attempt at a new, post-divorce relationship dashes against this wall.
2007-03-30 10:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by nanhowala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋