My girlfriend's brother is gay, and he's out to his classmates, co-workers, friends, his sister, me, my family and basically everyone else in the wide world. To his parents, some distant relatives, and the family church, he's still in the closet. He's told me that he's waiting until he can afford to move out of his parents house before even thinking about telling them, although I suspect he'll have a hard time even then. The parents are conservative Christians.
Is this ordinary? Did you or someone you know come out to parents dead last?
2007-03-23 19:14:52 · 5 answers · asked by Doc Occam 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I like him and I think his choice is a wise one. I'm just trying to see if other people were in his situation, and how they dealt with it.
2007-03-23 19:28:31 · update #1
Unfortunately, that story is all too common, and I am one that could relate to it, at one point in time. I would not advise him to rush, he has to do what is best for him. He does appear to have a support system, however, which is good, even if it's not his parents.
2007-03-23 19:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's sad that he's scared what they will think. But don't criticize his choice to wait until he moves out to tell his parents. it's his life and he needs to choose when to tell them. A parent/child relationship is very sacred and I know that there have been things I haven't wanted to tell my parents before and had to wait until the right time. What could be more serious than this? Let him tell them when he's ready. Hopefully, they will be understanding.
2007-03-24 02:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by yomama23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's actually normal and even common.
It's a really good idea too, because since they're conservative Christians I don't see that situation going so well.
He's a smart boy.
2007-03-24 02:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i assume its easiest to tell other people who wont be as judgemental as your parents especially when they are conservative christians. This gives him the chance to be accepted by many other people first and when he's ready he will tell them. i hope it goes as well as it can for him, its sad when people have to hide who they are and be ashamed of themself. u can just be helpful by being there for him when it hits the fan w/his folks.
2007-03-24 02:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by charli_red1218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry that this boy's family cannot accept and love him just for who he is instead of who he isn't. he has a hard path to walk and needs the support of his family.
i send my prayers.
2007-03-24 02:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋