K every time someone promises me something they forget or they just dont do it. .
I have so much trouble trusting people because my dad kept breaking promises with me and now im to cautious of my friends. .
Like seriously i dont even trust my best friends. .
is there something wrong with me?
2007-03-23 18:46:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I personally don't blame you based on the reasons you gave why you don't trust your friends. However, you have to consider the consequences of this disposition. I bet you don't wanna end up being "paranoid" for the rest of your life which would limit your involvement to the rest of world. My point is that, not trusting totally or seriously someone, brings limited room for you to move, to act, to do certain decisions, or even to have the life you wanted. The hardest part i would say in having this outlook is the difficulty to move forward and grab the opportunity offered by someone in a relationship. You might be involve in a relationship but in a very limited and doubtful way. You can always say to yourself that "i can do this alone without necessarily trusting", but the degree of happiness which would result will be highly limited or even superficial.
There is nothing wrong with you, it is just normal for every person to act that manner when we feel betrayed or abandoned. However, to stick in that position and letting ourselves stuck in that place will hurt our own selves the most [not the people outside us].
2007-03-23 19:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by mikel_understatement 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um.. i dont think it's just you, maybe your dad's fault for making you feel that way. why talk to him? well you know i dont ALWAYs trust my friends, but if they seem to tell the truth and NEVER break a promise then they are to be trusted...(if they broke maybe 2 promises and THATS it then it's still the same, trust them) but i dont blame you, a lot of people dont trust their friends.
2007-03-23 18:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by curious_grl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong w/u.It's hard to trust people when they break their promises; believe me I know how you feel. I wish I could tell u it is easy,but you cannot give up on people.
2007-03-23 19:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by rockstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to move on and learn to trust your friends....you can still be cautious if you want but a t the end of the day i love my friends heaps and my life would be empty without them...........
2007-03-23 18:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not you... its those who forget or dont value promises. if my best friend made me a promise and i valued the relationship i would let them know how i feel and that my feelings were hurt. besides, of all of the people in the world my best friends know me best because they see a side of me that even my family hasnt.
2007-03-23 18:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by goodnripe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Its just the people around you aren't very trustworthy. Don't worry i'm sure you'll find someone u can trust.
2007-03-23 18:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by ~*â?¥Glamorousâ?¥*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any thing wrong with you, when a person have be lie to over, and over, again it is had to have trust in anyone for thinking that they will lie again, and you will be hurt again.So keep your guards up until you can trust again.
2007-03-23 19:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by I am women 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with you, i dont trust my best friends either, because it seems to me every time i do they let me down. So i just dont trust them.
There's nothing wrogn with you
2007-03-23 18:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have had unpleasant experiences. There's nothing wrong with you but you have built mental walls to protect yourself. If and when you feel that they are more of a handicap to you than to other people you will have to dismantle them But easy does it.
2007-03-23 18:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its just that some people, well its hard to gain their trust like you. but just wondering, is it serious issues or iis it just giving a lollipop
2007-03-23 18:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋