his mom was taking my personal things. others seen her do this. so i moved it all out and then he puts a lock on the door the lock i asked him to please put on before. mom and me couldnt see eye to eye. she told me i was stealing her son ( who has been with her 47yrs) going nowhere!!!i have never tried to steal him so i left and he dont understand.which i cant see how he dont. come on men and woman would you do the same?? and, where i went i feel does not matter. no sex partner, no sex going on. i neede a break. he is concerned how i hurt him by leaving. he knows. his mom fights with me, she wants him to herself, she wants to boss me this is his home, it went on everyday. he said i cant love him. fact is i do. cant deal with all the drama. i feel i will always be #2 as they at times gtang up on me. we have no privacy. we can be in our bedroom she hears veverything and joins in??? help
2007-03-23 18:23:16 · 9 answers · asked by greg b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You did the right thing by leaving. Who wants a 47 year old momma's boy? Come on girl, you can do better than that!
Good luck!
2007-03-23 18:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good communication is the key.
It's normal for you & him to get angry / worked up for the unhappy things happening due to his mom. Nothing will be communicated well if both of you are upset over something.
Take this time to stay cool. Keeping away from the environment will help you to be sane & think clearer what you need to do next.
Find a time & a place (not his house) & talk nicely with him without the tension. Tell him...
"I love you, dear. I always have. But you must understand I'm under alot of stress. Your mom thought I'm stealing you away from her. But you know I won't do that. If you still love me, and want back this relationship, I would appreciate you tell your mom personally. Assure her that I won't steal her away. Assure her that I don't mean trouble. Assure her that you still love her, as her son. Tell her that she cannot expect you to be a bachelor all your life frightening all the girlfriends away. You need a companion. You need to have a family someday, with me or with some other girl. And if she loves you, she'll know what to do."
2007-03-23 18:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there's some SERIOUS problems going on in that house, man!! Maybe it was the best thing that could've happened to you, because it sounds like your boyfriend can't let go of his mother, and she won't let go of him!! First giant warning bell that should've gone off in your head was him still living with his freakin' mother when he's 47 years old!! Not right, man, not a normal thing!! If you really do love him and care for him, tell him so, tell him it's his MOM that's causing the problems for your relationship, not him, and if he really cares about you like he says he does, he will understand. But I would seriously think about having a relationship with a guy who is an adult and still lives with Mom!!!
2007-03-23 18:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Pearl's oldest daughter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When his mom found his dad, she must of forgot how it felt to be in love, and wanting to be alone with the one you love. This is apart of life. Taking care of your parents when they are older, and they can't take care of themselves is one thing, but battling to get love and attention from a man over his mother is NOT natural!! I know his mom would not have liked it if this had happened to her. You boyfriend may have never been born than, because his mom wouldn't have stuck around with such behavior going on! It's disgusting, and very selfish of the mother. The mother should want her son happy, and keeping him all to herself will get very old fast!!! You were right to leave, and if he truly loves you, he will act his age, and tell his mother she raised him right, and now it's finally time for him to live his own life. The mother may feel sad, but she also needs to get on with her life. She needs to be involved with people her own age. If he does not understand this reality, he does not deserve you. Good luck!
2007-03-23 19:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to move out, if he won't you might as well forget him. You can't live with his mom if she is going to act like that tall him your nerves won't take & you are not going to be treated like that. He could move in with you wherever you moved to if not get a place together if you want but lay down some ground rules.Tell him what you want & what you can't deal with & if he won't meet you half way forget him.
2007-03-23 18:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewwwwwwwww.
2007-03-23 18:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by Emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't realize what he's missing in you, then you are better off without him. Momma's boys don't make men--that's why they're called "boys"! Get someone who's around your own age--physically, mentally and emotionally!
2007-03-23 18:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HE A MAMA BOY LOL WISH I COULD HELP YOU SOUND LIKE A MAMA 'S BOY THAT AWFUL I WISH HE GROW UP SEE YA SIDE ...
2007-03-23 18:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boyfriend and his mom about this and maybe you can work it all out
2007-03-23 18:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋