I have a girlfriend who I have been with for about 5 years now. I'm 19 years old. I've struggled with my sexual preferences for a long time and have decided I'm gay. I'm not going to tell her that because obviously that would hurt her worse than just leaving her. How do I go about leaving her? What are some things to tell her?
2007-03-23 18:20:07 · 11 answers · asked by Matt 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
matt---tell her the truth...she will know that she can't compete in this area and that may cause her pain...but at least she will know that it isn't anything she did or didn't do...after 5 years you owe her the truth.
2007-03-23 18:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 11:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've joked with my girlfriend, "If you ever leave me, leave me for a woman." I'd actually feel better knowing that it was 'men in general' rather than 'me in particular' that was the problem. After five years you should be able to trust each other. Give her intelligence some credit, too - she may have figured it out also.
2007-03-23 18:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by Doc Occam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about being honest with her since, you have now discovered that you are gay.... even though it might hurt her, it is better than lying to her.... lying is the worst you can do... if you can't tell her you are gay, then leave her without telling her why.... but i know you are better than that.... If she loves and cares for you, then she will understand!
2007-03-23 18:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i mean...yeah it sucks because it seems she might (with some due cause) believe you totally used her, but maybe she can find it in her to realize it's who you are, and not something you can change. Human sexuality is not something that can be deciphered overnight, and most people (myself included) take years to fully accept it.
just don't date any guys at all until you've really broken up with her, because that's just mean, no matter who you are or whether you're gay or not.
2007-03-23 20:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, just tell her the truth. She may be suspicious anyway. You guys started dating really young, you're only 19. A lot of people figure it out in their late teens. Good luck to you!
2007-03-23 19:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by yomama23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Yeah, it'll hurt her for a while (nobody likes being dumped) but in the end she'll understand and you'll always have her as a best friend.
2007-03-23 18:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by its.getting.worse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, she will be relieved knowing its not another woman. I'm sure still hurt but, she obviously can't give you what you need and want.
2007-03-23 18:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Vanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just tell her honestly, and ask her what she wants to do. she can either leave you straight away or she accepts your explanation and stay as friends
2007-03-23 22:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. If she finds out on her own, she will be more hurt by your lying to her.
2007-03-23 18:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋