My bf's lost interest in sex with me but watches porn all the time! What's going on?

Question

I've been with my bf a little bit over a year now. He used to have a really high sexual drive but lately it's been getting worse and worse. He doesn't seem to be depressed or have any physical problems that I can see, and he doesn't seem to be stressed either. (He is 22, goes to school in the morning, and works on wkends, I work everyday) When I confront him about this, he either says he's "tired of it" or he already "knows he will be with me for a long time so there isn't a need or rush to do it so much", yet I've seen that he goes to a lot of porn sites on his computer and he's even searched for a local f* buddy. Honestly I'm not sure what to think, can someone please tell me what might be going on? Do you think he's thinking about cheating on me or maybe already has?

Answer 1

In one form or another, this is a big red flag. Consider backing out.

Answer 2

michelle, u're still young , don't waste your time on a relationship which might lead you to a no happy ending. My situation is very similar to urs the only different that I'm married, tell you this I would run away from this relationship if I don't have my baby long ago. I'm suffering but u're not bcus there's a way for you to get back and go on with ur life. Ur bf is disrespecting you and looking for a new fish for his bait. You deserve more than that. Remember never lose your mind for a guy it's not smart to be blinded in love.
always cheer u up
good luck

Answer 3

You mention he goes to school everyday and then works on weekends. That's a terrific recipe for burnout.

And you may have other underlying issues in your relationship that need to be resolved.

I'd get counselling.

Answer 4

he's cheating. dump him. guys are all sick bastards that move from 1 girl to the next, and there's nothing we can do about it until we marry them, and even then some of them will still cheat on you.