In 4th 5th and 6th grade I really messed up with my popularity and girls. I was mean and still is today to everyone! But! I want that to change when i go back to school Monday.
But this is the thing i need help with. If I go to school and not be mean to anyone and get a attitude with anyone....
Will they forgive me for what I done?
Another thing is I am shy around girls! Idk why but help me become no shy to girls please!
Thanks in advance!
2007-03-23 17:38:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why have you been so mean? Are you insecure about something? Have you been bullied at home or elsewhere and are taking it out on the kids at school. This makes me wonder why your parents have never done anything about your behavior. If you are wanting to change that is a great thing but if you have been a bully for 3 years that is a really hard thing to suddenly go back on. People will question your motive for suddenly being nice. It will definitely take time to gain other kids respect and friendship, not to mention girls. Not everyone might forgive you. Your best bet is to go to the people you have wronged and tell them how sorry you are, SINCERELY. That takes a big person to do that, and it's very hard. Then they might start to trust that you want to change. I wouldn't worry about girls right now. I would worry about stopping the bullying. Eventually, other things will fall into place. Good luck!
2007-03-23 17:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by bridgey1128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to change overnight like they do in the movies. However, it sounds like you are starting to mature and you can change the way you present yourself. Give it time and let people see the new you and they will begin to flock towards you. You sound so upbeat about it now so go to school Monday and start working your new stuff. Don't ever result to your old self or you will never get passed your current reputation.
As far as girls go....they are shy as well. Just talk to them and be nice. Say hello or give a smile in the hallways.
You can do it! Report back and let us know how it is going.
2007-03-24 00:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..im not sure. If you were at my school and you had basically been an *** to everyone and then suddenly change i would think your a fake..i would not buy it
I think that you cant just go from one extreme to the other...slowly change so people can see that your trying and not think your being fake
For a week you could say hi to people more or sit with someone else at lunch and then the next start conversations and start gradualy building up relationships with people...if yuo've offended someone then remember to say sorry.
p.s dont be shy around girls...they're not gonna bite or anything..lol they are just as nervous and scared as you are...
2007-03-24 00:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by M E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Do It ! All you can do is try, if they see you turned over a new leaf maybe they will forgive you , but you may need to ask them for forgiveness in some cases if you were really mean to them. Some of them may never forgive you, but all you can do is try. Just be yourself around everyone, don't pretend to like things you don't like or pretend to be someone you aren't, so they can get to know the real you. Be strong & do your best , thats all you can do.
2007-03-24 00:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If I were a guy and I was use to being the bad guy I would just come right out and say to whom ever I was being mean to at the time that "Hey I apologize for how I have been behaving lately I 'll try and do better in being nicer to ya". And If they look confused just say "I can be tough to get along with and for that I apologize.
2007-03-24 00:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by sweetmoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking certain people for forgiveness can go a long way towards shifting your reputation. It has to be followed up with a new attitude, of course. It will take time for people to see and accept you this way.
It begins with going to God to ask forgiveness. He promises it to all who ask.
2007-03-24 01:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋