Is my ex in contemt of court?Should I take her to to court for not doing what the judge ordered ?!?

Question

4 years ago in our final agreement I was ordered to pay child support and she was the custodial parent,although we share joint custody. As the custodial parent she was to keep insurance on the child and we were to split the costs not covered by the insurance . Just recently (6 mo's or so ),I learned that there is no said coverage on the child. The ex had asked me before to help with some of the doctor bills and I said I would do what I could.I have begun a new career with a large corp. with major benifits that will cover the child.I asked the ex why she did not have ins. on the child and she said it was too expensive and that I was responsible for half the medical bills anyway.Ithought that my child support payments were just that ,support for the child?I didn't know that I was paying for her '07 Mustang and her husbands new truck and the house we bought that she now shares w/ him!I asked her to drop the child support for the ins..she refused.She still has no coverage.I feel railroaded

Answer 1

I would contact your lawyer. Especially if something happened to your child that a huge bill got racked up and she has no insurance you could be responsible for paying for thousands of dollars. Or worse yet, some hospital could refuse to treat your child because he/she does not have insurance.

It baffles me that they value a Mustage and truck over making sure the child has insurance. Perhaps you should even go for custody.

Good luck!

Answer 2

This is important.
Try to concentrate on your assessment for your contribution to your child. Do not continue to count what your ex and her new husband are doing with the money.
Remember the child and the child will remember you when you are old and in need of a visitor.
Too many ex spouses are busy making each others lives miserable and trying to recover from a broken relationship and not enough are remembering that little jewel that they created and are both responsible to see to a mentally healthy life.
Somebody has to be the better person so the child can have at least half a chance of making it without visiting the mental institution or strung out on drugs or a delinquent.
Perhaps a trip to the therapist for you, your ex and the current ones you two are involved with as well as your child would be helpful and the specialist can probably show you a few case studies of the destructive outcome if the two adults do not behave themselves for the sake of that child!
I am just wondering why you do not use the term my child or my son or my daughter? The child sounds so distant. Are you going to let her control your relationship with that precious little creation the two of you made?
18 years donated to that child of yours can be a short time to pay for a life time of continued selfless, unconditional love from someone hwo had no choice to be here except two adults made that decision for him/her.
Come on and take one for the child?

Answer 3

Call your lawyer and take her to court. If she failed to uphold her end of the agreement by not keeping insurance on the child, I don't see why you would be responsible for half but DO remember that your child is your CHILD and not a possession. Kids get caught up in this crap and treated like a puppy no one wants. I understand the frustration of your hard earned $ going towards HER expenses. Maybe you should sue for full custody. Then she would have to pay you. But honestly, think about your child first and what would be best for him/her.

Answer 4

Take her to court and let the judge decide what should be done now. If it really is too expensive for her the judge will decide all coverage will be under your insurance. Child support may be modified bsased on your current earnings and hers. If you feel the children are not being properly cared for with the money you give her for support you can bring that up too.

Answer 5

If the order says she HAS to have medical coverage, then yes she is in contempt of that order by not providing what is required of her. If it is only a suggestion on reccomendation on her part, there is nothing you can do.

Child support is just that for the child, to be use din any way to support the child. if that means transportation, clothing, or a stress releiver for the parent in charge of the child. Hate to say it, but you have no real say in how she spends the money you give her, as long as the child is provided for.

Answer 6

I didn't read all of the other answers on here,but I know from my personal experience,my ex spends most of my child's money on her own things.As the one answer asked,are you jealous? I don't believe that to be the case.The money you give is meant for the child only,not in any way for her.I would contact your local family court and air your worries.You can always get things changed.Things like she now has her new man's income to rely on,that's only if the guy is working and not leaching off of you and welfare.I hope you were smart enough to get a bank account in your child's name,so it can show corresponding withdrawals and payments,if possible.
As in all welfare cases,and sometimes people in general,why should I pay if someone else will? Good luck.

Answer 7

If it is on a document what the judge ordered her to do and she doesn't follow it, than you have a right to take her butt back to court. and second, Those child support payments are
ONLY for the child(ren) and not her or her new husband. She should look on the internet for cheap insurance, then she can apply some of the child support towards the insurance.

Answer 8

I am studying criminal justice not this kind so im not sure but it seems like you have a case if you have the evidence to prove thats what she spent the money on especially if she's making you pay for your child alone in that case you can try to gain custody of your child since you are paying for mostly everything

Answer 9

no need to feel that way, the cost of the insurance isnt nearly as much as the child support, that probably why she refused.

most states will make the other parent provide the insurance, if the one isnt able to, then take the amount off the child support for the costs.

try calling your caseworker and requesting a hearing for review. bring the costs of insurance with you.

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/

YOUR STATES CS POLICY
http://childsupportcenter.org/stateprofiles.php

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Answer 10

will it cost more to get coverage for your child and yourself? If not I would cover my *** and get the insurance on my child too. she should have kept her end of the deal and you certainly can take her back to court, but would it be worth it? more money flushed away when she will probably do what she wants anyways? you can fight the dr bills though considering she should be using the support to pay them and not her car payment.