Leslie (female) and I have known each other for 35 years. She's been with her husband for nearly that long. The marriage has been on the rocks for the last 5 years. He has finally left her. They are divorcing. He won't be back. She is deeply depressed. She has made a 1/2 hearted attempt at suicide. I have suggested counciling but she says she doesn't need it. She doesn't have a 'faith' (no religious upbringing). Her Dad is dead and she barely tolerates her Mom. She has no friends that I know of. Her whole world was this man, even though she has been unhappy for years. She's reclusive. Truthfully, we have little in common but our past. I deeply care about her, but feel helpless. Any advice would be appreciated. I am in a happy marriage now. She was there for me when I was at the bottom of my own horrible divorce and depression, so I feel I understand what she's going through. But I had God, a loving family and friends to help me through rough times. She has none of this.
2007-03-23 17:04:43 · 12 answers · asked by crushedlilacs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See if she will humble herself and pray with you because you have the power because you believe. You need to intercede for her. Do not offer advice unless she ask for it. Just be there keep in touch--back off some. Let Go, Let God. Do not let that spirit get into your happy marriage. Let this be a lesson for u too. After most of her life her man just leaves i hope she get alimony.
2007-03-23 17:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's lucky to have you. Stand by her, and be there for her to talk to. Try to let her know that she will get past all of this, maybe you can remind her of how you did. I do believe the best thing you can do for her is to listen. Try to get her outside, fresh air. They say exercise is great for depression. Maybe you guys can take walks together. Or, better yet, get her to join some kind of a exercise class, or something, where she can meet other people, just be her friend and try to get her to move on. Know where I can find a friend like you? lol.
2007-03-23 17:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by ME!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got "left" after 24 years, by a man I thought was the universe.
I thought I loved him & couldn't live without him....tried the same halfazz suicide-----"if he sees I can't live without him, he'll come back" bullchit.
It will be hard as hell, but she needs to see if she was really happy---She likely wasn't, but was so comfortable with the status quo, that she FORGOT how to be happy!
BE there for her....be honest about why you never liked her ex.
Tell her that the guy you work with used to ask about her (tell a little lie, God WILL forgive you!)
2007-03-23 17:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs professional help. There are groups for
women going through depression due to divorce and loss.
she needs a good therapist to work through the hurt and anger. The suicide attempt is a cry for help. She sounds like
she has had depression for a long time. Please encourage
her not to give up on herself and her future. Just keep listening
and being there for her. You sound like a great friend to her.
2007-03-23 17:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by MESSENGER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her, she will let you know when she wants something, And it sounds like you believe in God so pray for her, Just being there with an open ear and acting as a sounding board is the best I have found.
2007-03-23 17:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by David R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact mental health services in your local community--see yellow pages--ck Suicide Hotline or anything along those lines & let them know. They will give you some options. She may not like it, but you're probably saving her life. Only speaking from experience with a friend in a similar situation, once.
2007-03-23 17:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she does. She has you. You are a very dear and caring friend. I would suggest you try to get her to go church with you. Maybe you and someone else from your church can visit with her and pray with her at her house. She will get through this with the God's help, and yours. I will pray for her.
2007-03-23 17:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there as a friend....just listen. Most of the time a person is not really looking for answers when they start talking about what is happening.....they just need to vent. Someone to talk to is all.
2007-03-23 17:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for your friend and see if she'll go to a support group for other people going threw the same thing or worse see if you can get her in church at least one time to see if she'll like it because with out god we can't do anything
2007-03-23 17:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep pursuing God on her and invite her to as many events as you can just be there even if she doesn't want you too you'll eventually rub off on her,she'll do fine good luck to the 2 of you
2007-03-23 17:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋