My friend's name is Pele. I haven't known her that long, but I became very close to her from my church's camp. She would always come to church, and loved to please God, and I looked up to her for that. ...but she moved into a different area. We live on Maui, so where she lives is still pretty close to our church. I haven't seen her in over a month, and she doesn't come to church anymore. She is on Spring Break, and one of her goals was to "drink with Scott." and strangely another one of her goals was "to get involved with the cops." She has done both. I am worried about her, because she has seemed to change..the only way I talk to her now, is through e-mail. She stopped cutting, but she said she's not afraid of suicide. Her life seems to be falling apart, and I can't do anything about it. I just don't know what to do.
2007-03-23 16:59:40 · 10 answers · asked by ≈[Łąūřėņ]≈™ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she is harming herself and thinking of suicide then you should tell someone you trust. Perhaps some one at the church who knows both of you and can offer her the help she needs.
There is indeed strength in prayer.
As you are Christian remember to pray for her without judgment. She needs your strength now.
Good luck and blessings to you both.
2007-03-31 11:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by makeda m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 08:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes!
Well, first off, let her know that you're there for her. Encourage her that she is worth more than getting involved with the cops, drinking, and ruining her life like that. Next, you need to tell her to talk to somebody about her suicidal thoughts. If she doesn't tell anybody, you need to tell your parents and see what you should do. Also, you should pray for her. God will help you out. Allow Him to mend your friend's life and trust in Him so much right now. God knows how much this girl meant to you and He loves her too. So just keep having faith and trying to encourage your friend.
Best of luck!!
2007-03-23 17:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'r a good friend and I hope she knows that. All you can do is pray because some times god takes care of his children and separates friendship if he sees something he doesn't like but he like's when we pray for one another. It's your job as a believer and as a friend but if she is at a distance is for a good reason and never question god for he know's best. And ones she comes back from healing and getting it together then maybe god will allow this friendship to flow. I believe God put's people in our life's for a reason and for a season just the way he removes them. Ask god to show you who are true healthy loving friends and to bless you with sincere friends who are going to value and respect your friendship.
All you can do is pray and prayer is the best thing you can do for a friend. Their is power in prayer.
2007-03-23 17:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by amores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as hard as it is you can't stress about her life. and that sounds mean. take it form someone who has been in your friends place and in yours. she will wind up influeincing you to do something bad or someone else. this girl does not sound very good to be around. my advice tell your mom or someone at school. she sounds a little bit fake or like she is doing this for attention then again there may be something very wrong at her home or with her she needs help and not the kind her friend can give her. it would be in hers and your best intrest to talk to your mom and have your parents call hers or tell some adult
2007-03-31 07:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is thinking about sucide tell a trusted adult... dont be the blame to a person dieing... when the cops find a body and it looks like sucide, they go through the entire house,even personal stuff, computers, cell phones, PDAs, they can track you by your email. i dont mean to scare you but if you friend is that close you may want to call the cops if she ever emails you about killing herself...
P.S. have your church group pray for her. dont use her name just say i have a friend that thinks about sucide. if your youth pastor hears of this dont be afriad to tell him... there is always help out there.
2007-03-23 17:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by ROTC Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Pele that you are there for her, try visiting her or try to be close to her, maybe you guys can talk on the phone or something. Let her see that you are with her, and care about her.
2007-03-31 16:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by blah... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got o church don't cha? The pray. Tell an adult that your worried about her. Go see her.
2007-03-28 05:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by Aila126 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try giving her advice talking to her and ask her why she is doing this why the change and tell her you care about her life and would like to know the reasons of her actions
2007-03-23 17:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by bclittlebear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRAY, PRAY, PRAY FOR HER!!!!
2007-03-30 15:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋