My husband had an emotional affair?

Question

He said this other woman was his "Ideal" woman, so what does that make me?

wow..It did hurt when he said it, I didn't realize how bad it really is.

Answer 1

It makes you feel terrible. I know how it feels. But...it makes him a total friggin' s.o.b.

I guess his "ideal" woman is not the one who does his nasty laundry, keeps his house clean, tends to the children, buys presents for his mother on mother's day, b-days and christmas, or listens to his whining, or runs his errands, or cooks his meals and keeps everything together instead of letting it go to chaos, and still have time to make him feel like a man.

Nope...the grass is always greener, isn't it?

Gawd, I hate self righteous men.

Answer 2

Well, I can relate to that pain, I have experienced it. Now, I am involved in an emotional affair with a schoolmate from college 35 years ago. It is wrong and I don't justify it even though my husband had a real affair with a woman a year ago. I filed for divorce, have not gone through with it because of Biblical teachings but I know I left the marriage emotionally long before this emotional affair began. Try to read After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D. An affair is a very serious warning sign and attention is needed, if you want to stay in the marriage. It is the crack in the door that leads to exit.

Answer 3

Does that not just hurt like heck.I had the same thing happen to me.He said the other GIRL yes she was only 20 was nice and sweet and that she was getting under his skin but that he would never cheat on me or leave me because he had responsibilities.I guess that is all I am a responsibility.Our marriage has not been the same.

Answer 4

Went thorough the same thing......he said we will always be friends (ouch!) I finally gave him a choice.......I asked him if she was worth everything he would be losing. I then told him he needed to make a choice. I gave him 1 hour to dump the B#*^$. He dumped her in a public chat room. Our marriage has never been better. Don't do what I did. I did it because I had nothing left to lose. I made the biggest bet of my life and won, I will be forever grateful for that.

Answer 5

Someone that deserves better! If he thinks this other woman is his ideal woman then he's obviously bored with you unfortunately. I hope that things get better for you. There are better men out there!

Answer 6

That still makes you his wife and partner. She may have been emotionally ideal at that time, but you are the one he calls his wife and the one he shares his bed with. It sounds like he was blunt with the details, at least he came clean. Try to move past it and forward together.

Answer 7

Make his ideal woman an idol woman , idols are only to be worshipped , and i hope u r intelligent enough to do that

Answer 8

I just found out my husband was cheatin on me i can feel yo pain but our situation is different i really cant tell u to leave him cause im still wit my husband but it sound like when he get tired of her he will find another one but who nows this may teach him a lesson that u cant always have your cake and eat it to.What look good to ya aint good for ya.

Answer 9

It makes you his wife and the other his whore. (IDEAL) woman meaning someone he is playing with in bed and acting the fool out of bed .He will get tired of that. Everything gets old and boring if you do it for so long don't care what it is it will happen.

Answer 10

If this was just an "emotional" affair like an office wife and not a physical betrayal, he is nuts for bothering you with it and should get individual counseling. If he was physically unfaithful, it depends how much you care for him as to whether or not you want to work in couples treatment or just dump him..