Is it normal for someone to be...I don't know how to word this... attached to a teacher (and not in any inappropriate manner) but to the point where if another student is favored, they feel a little negative about that? I tell myself (I'm 18 and this person 40ish if age matters) that it makes no difference, move on, forget about it, so I try to move on and make myself believe it doesn't matter, but that attachment-like feeling keeps coming back.
I don't know why it's this particular person, but does anyone have advice on how to detach from someone?
What gets you attached in the first place :-/ ?
2007-03-23 16:35:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you're attached to your teacher because you like something in him that you might have. I dont think your attachement is bad, but if you lose yourself then you need to come back to reality and your identity. The answers from others can work, you can find something you dislike in your teacher. Or instead of hating him, you might enlarge the environment of people and friends, different activities that make you unique. So this way you will not think too much of the other person. If now at 18 y/o, it's only a teacher, imagine when you will date someone you feel attached to. Here you need to keep yourself centered and realise yourself in different areas, like having different interests, hobbies might help. It will open up and you won't be too focused on only one person. I think i have the same problem of attachment, that's why right now i'm concerned about developping my own talents.
2007-03-23 16:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by iden26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, as humans, we all have feelings like that. Perhaps what gets us attatched in the first place is the fact that this teacher maybe praised them? or was kind to them in a way other teachers didn't. The best way, I think, to get over that, is to find things you really don't like about the teacher and focus on them. XD that way, you won't be attracted to the teacher anymore. It's simple reverse-psychology. ^^ Crappy advice, I know, but that's what I would do.
2007-03-23 23:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kellatrix the Strange 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divert your attention by getting involved in other things in your life. It sounds like you are a little obsessed with this teacher and what they think. As time goes on, you will find other stuff in life to focus on and this phase will pass.
2007-03-23 23:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you admire the person or respect them and you want them to think highly of you most of all because that would be high praise for you.
2007-03-24 00:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's drastic but it works...... Begin to hate them, despise the very things that made you like her to begin with, soon you'll by in to it.
2007-03-23 23:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Brian L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, try to, in small steps, to look at this persons small or big bad sides. anything bad about how she/he looks,how she/he talks, small annoying things about that person..
2007-03-24 05:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋