Is it true if a man hits you once, he will always hit you?? I was in an abusive relationship, my boyfriend hit me about 6 times in our 3 year relationship, including while I was pregnant with our daughter and I always believed him when he said he wouldn't do it again. But the more times he did it, the more I hated him for it ... and I couldn't forgive him anymore -for my daughters sake and mine- so finally I left him ... even though I love him more than anything in this world. He was raised with an abusive drug addict father that beat his mom ... and I feel sorry for him but at the same time, I don't want to be hurt because of what he saw growing up ... do you think there's any chance he might change?
2007-03-23 16:30:09 · 16 answers · asked by cup_ma_cake07@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is not impossible for people to change. Never EVER make excuses for his actions. Don't let him make excuses either. Just because his father was abusive doesn't mean he should be.
If he really wants to change, he can. Chances of it are not great, but it does happen for some people.
2007-03-23 16:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by lxl_serendipity_lxl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Sadly he won't change. Feeling sorry won't help. My Father was raised in an abusive childhood, but he never hit my Mom. Being brought up in a hard environment is not a reason or excuse. He hits you because he is a bad person. He will not change. Don't go back. He needs to seek therapy, anger management and never ever get into a relationship again. He cannot ever have a normal one. He's messed up and his childhood is not an excuse for it, It is just a cop-out.
2007-03-23 23:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Malcolm L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I don't think he is going to change Hun. If that's what he grew up on then that's what he knows. I'm kinda getting out of a mentally abusive relationship, I was with him for 2 1/2 years and i felt like it was the worst part of my life. The same thing he grew up around it so to him it made it right. For him to really change something crazy has to happen to him for him to realize whats he doing.
2007-03-23 23:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u hit u r son or daughter because u r very angry, if u r son/daughter feels the same way how would u feel
Every man behaves the same it is not the same case with your boy friend only, You know his childhood and him very welll try to forgive him if u feel his behaving weird then take him to a psychologist. he loves u, but sometimes when a person becomes emotional they do tend to hit others
if there are some pests on a crop do u kill the pests or destroy the crop, wise people kill only the pest they dont destroy the crop
2007-03-23 23:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by nakshitra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could with therapy and help from you,as long as he doesn't drink.If he drinks then there is no hope for him.All the love in the world goes right out the window when he drinks,he becomes his father and in his eyes he is the boss of the house and you are going to listen to what ever he says.
2007-03-23 23:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say no , the one i had never did . after 5 yrs he still lives @ home with his mom no job, no car and still drinks! i on the other hand have moved and and fallen very much in love with a great man whom i Have only heard yell 3 times in the yr we have been together. and yours looks like he was rasied to belive to beat good luck... your took the right road keep going and when the road folks go right and stay right xoox
2007-03-23 23:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Gracie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The older a person is, the less chance he/she will change. Domestic abuse is a crime, and you should have left him, even if only once.
2007-03-23 23:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to wait until he hits your daughter before it sinks in? Get out now!!! Protect yourself and your daughter.
Good luck!
2007-03-23 23:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me on this one , he will never change!!! he hit you when you when you were pregnate with his child. he hit you when you werent pregnate. he will hit you in front of your child he will hit you away from your child . there will be no end trust me on this one, i say three strikes you are out. why give him another chance to hit you again in front of your child. then your kids will be like him. stick with this guy and your baby may hit you, your other kids,his girlfriends,or wife.stop the cylce now!!! good luck.
2007-03-23 23:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope sorry it like the saying once a cheater always a cheater. keep your distnce to be on the safe side. he might start hitting your child.
2007-03-23 23:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by jenperera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋