Am I ugly, my mom says I am...?

Question

I am 14 and a lot of people tell me I am pretty/ gorgeous/ cute/ sexy/ hott etc. But one time I was getting ready to go somewhere with my mom and I told her I was ready to go. She was like "I didn't know you were ready to go, you look pretty d*mn fugly." She often acts like I am ugly and worthless, and screams at me about the most mundane details, or things I didn't even do, or things she interpreted the wrong way. I understand she loves me because she is my mother, but sometimes I think she hates me and it really lowers my self-worth to know that my own mother thinks I am repulsively ugly. Here is a picture of me, I am wearing no makeup except mascara and a little eyeliner; do you agree with my mom that I'm fugly?

http://i90.photobucket.com/albums/k249/midgetthewhiner/Photo214.jpg

Sorry I forgot to say, PLEASE be as honest as possible, I really don't care if you say you agree with my mom and I'm ugly, as long as you're honest. Thanks :)

That isn't acne, that's spottiness from the crappy quality of the camera, and that thing on my chin is a mole...

Answer 1

Hey you,
Please listen to me when I say you are beautiful. I know lots of mothers that get really jealouse of thier daughters. Some even start making them wear certian things and force them to do certian activities that they want thier daughter to do. For example, Mom wants daughter to join cheerleading so she signs her up without asking. If your mom starts acting this way maybe you should talk to her about it. Pray about it and keep an open mind. Whatever you do don't belive your mom when she says things like that to you. They arent true. Everyone was created in a certain way. You were created in God's image and are just the way he wanted you to be. Don't be to hard on yourself if others put you down. They are ussualy insecure about themselfs. (Your mother may be having a difficult time coping with you being really pretty and to make herself feel better puts you down.) Please talk to her. Please don't belive her. I looked at your pic and your pretty. Really pretty.
-ME

Answer 2

I just want to say that as females we always have our insecurities at times, but we have to learn to over come that. I don't know or understand why your own mother would call you ugly, but you are very pretty. Maybe your mom is jealous of you in some crazy way or maybe she is going through a phase where she wishes she was your age again and takes it out on you by saying stupid things like you're ugly. I wouldn't worry about it, just keep your self esteem high and don't let your mother tell you other wise.

Answer 3

Ok I am a very honest person but I do not think you are ugly at all-at least not from the picture.
Your mom doesn't hate you, sometimes my mom calls me fat and ugly when I make my hair or dress a certain way. But you really should ask her why she calls you ugly.

Answer 4

No way. No way. You are very pretty.... Don't worry about what your mom says to you. You be YOU, and love yourself for that. Really. Don't let her have that power to influence you...be "above that". She can be whoever she wants to be, and so can you. She loves you....maybe she is stressed out or something else is going on. No matter what, NEVER believe her if she says stuff like that. You are actually really beautiful, and I'm not just saying that to make you feel better. Really.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry your own mother treats you like that and from your picture you look normal to me. She is most likely jealous of you and she sounds like a horrible mother since she says those demeaning things to you, there is nothing you can do about her words except try to explain to her that it hurts your feelings and hopefully she will understand and stop saying those things. If she doesn't then I would just try not to let it get to you, I know that will be hard seeing as how its your own mother but try not to let your self -image be lowered to her standards.

Answer 6

You so are not ugly! And I'm being honest! She probably just is worried about you getting into some bad situation and wants to lower you self-esteem or she's joking around, or possible, even jealous.

Answer 7

You're a very pretty girl. It's hard growing up when people are putting you down like that. My dad was the one who did that to me. Except - I couldn't sing. He would make all kinds of comments to ridicule me and I believed him. But ya knnow what? When I was in high school, I tried out for the choir. Most of the people trying out were placed in the lower choir but I was placed in the higher "concert" choir. I could sing after all!

Answer 8

Sweetheart, listen to me. Alot of people may say alot of things about you and your looks but all that matters is how YOU feel about yourself. And I saw your picture and you are beautiful! Listen, don't focus so much on the beauty ppl see on the outside as much as your inner beauty. Don't let anyone steal your inner beauty by making you self consious. And remember confidence makes ppl think you have something you don't. Jesus sees our beauty in our hearts and love for him and doesn't judge by our looks. Thats what makes me feel good. Read the bible and see for yourself. Good bye Gorgous! Read Proverbs 31:30

Answer 9

I think (for good reason) your mother doesn't want you to get a big head over yourself. It's obvious to all that your not an "ugly" girl so there is an underlying problem that needs addressed. You should try to get to the bottom of this.

Answer 10

No, you are NOT ugly. Maybe your mom is just stressed out, and her way of venting is telling you that you're ugly. Try talking to her about how it makes you feel when she says that, or if you know that would make her mad try talking to someone else you are close to. Just remember that you are beautiful the way you are.