How come some white people always claim not to be rasist, but don't date outside of their race?

Question

If minorities are just like you or color doesn't matter, then how come I so many of you have never dated outside of your race? I always hear people saying, 'everyone is the same and race doesn't matter.' Did you ever approach a minority? Especially guys, did you ever ask a dark skinned girl out, or even considered doing so? Or are they not good or pretty enough for you to want?

This is a question directed at you as an individual, don't say, "Lots of people date outside of their race". This is about what YOU do.

YOU talk the talk but do YOU walk the walk?

That's a cop out, whenever black men get the chance to date a white girl, their heads explode with pure joy. They just don't get enough offers.

Answer 1

I asked a similar question. "Why are white men afraid of dating black women?"

And one answer that I got was, "There's a cultural stereotype that black women as a group are believed to be more assertive than white women (in part because they are believed to have to be, due to stereotypes about black men)."

The 2nd answer that I got was, "Seriously, It's usually a cultural thing. Black women are portrayed as strong willed and somewhat intimidating. Plus feedback from white family and friends is often negative."

Another answer was, "I think white guys are afraid they are white , and that black girls might not find their looks attractive. "

Answer 2

If race really didn't matter then this question would be unnecessary. I go out with people based on my personal preference on looks. If I'm into big butts, I probably won't be dating white girls. It's not because they are white, they just don't have the feature I'm in to. Same thing if I were into blondes. How many true blondes do you know that are not caucasian? Physical appearance, and with that physical preference, shouldn't be what determines you as a racist or not.

Answer 3

Just because a person doesn't date outside their race doesn't mean they are "racist." There is also the whole thing of attraction. Maybe some people are just not attracted to someone of a different race then they are. Just like people may choose not to date someone who may have a certain body type, hair color, etc. IT's all a matter of preference. I'd for sure date somebody of a different skin color if I was single and the option presented itself.

Answer 4

Everyone has personal tastes. Currently my personal physical attraction is to african americans, some day it might be, asians. Just because I(BTW I am white) am attracted to one race over another doesn't mean I am racist or dislike the other choices. It simply means I am atracted to who I am atracted to. Some guys like girls with long hair, doesn't mean they are against girls with short hair.

Ultiamtely if I decide to get married it will come down to a very few BIG deciding points. Personality/Beliefs, Our personalities need to mesh and for this to work we must share the more important beliefs. Freedom to marry. Another biggie is IF the person is willing to date, then marry, me.

PS The comment about black guys exploding at the chance to date white girls is VERY racist. The comment is stating that they would choose white girls as better or more desirable. That is not always the case. Try judging humans, as that Human.

Answer 5

Just because a person believes in equality for all races doesn't MEAN they'd date outside their race.
Actually, I'm shocked you'd think because a person doesn't date outside their own race that you would put the 'racist brand' on them. If someone wants to date outside their race I consider that their own business. Shouldn't you respect a person's rights if they don't care to date outside their race themselves? Is that really hurting you in ANY way? If so, you have issues you need to deal with.

Answer 6

Dating outside one's race has nothing to do one way or the other with racism.

When I was dating, I never found a member of another race interesting to date. It just never happened- and I went to a heavily integrated college- less than 50% causcasian ( my race), the rest were black, hispanic and middle eastern.

Dating had little to do with physical attraction for me. I dated people I found interesting and wanted to know better. Sorry- i'm not shallow and picked based on physical attraction!

Answer 7

True, but I don't date outside of the race cause whites are so racist. It's hard for someone (black and white) dating, to get ahead at jobs and other economic things that you might need, if a Black dude dates a white lady.

Plus how can I fight racism if I'm with a white lady, I might be talking about her family and her (I mean she is white you know)

She might not be racist but I wouldn't want to offend her or her family cause she is white. So it's best to just stay black.

Answer 8

The thing I found out from experience is that most of the women I asked out that were of different race didn't want to date outside of their race. It's really a two way street.

Answer 9

Lots of white people, such as I, tend to know mostly people who are also white. In the same way, many, if not most, minorities tend to know mostly people from their same race.

Not dating someone from another race doesn't make you racist. Where did you ever get that idea?

Answer 10

I'm a white female.
I dated a Hispanic guy for a few months.
The guy I married is partially African.
What I was really looking for is in the personality though, not the skin color.
So, yes, I did walk the talk.