I am just have a hard time lately. I am a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for 9 1/2 years. I just feel like I am real lost. Any REAL suggestion are welcome.
2007-03-23 16:12:32 · 9 answers · asked by Su2You P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good for you honey to realize you are having some problems. If you ask me, I'd say you are grown. Stop judging yourself. You are your worst critic and it sounds as though you are being so hard on yourself for the hand you have been dealt in life. At forty, not a heck of alot is going to change for you if you keep this mindset. You made it 9 1/2 years hon! That's a heck of a long time to start reflecting now on all the screw ups. Can you imagine where you'd be if you spent those 9 1/2 years drinking? I think it's time you close that chapter of your life and start writing the next one. Think of all the possibilities....it's endless. Nobody needs anymore than the air in their lungs, food and shelter to survive. You have that, you are surviving....now start living. Think back to the life you envisioned for yourself. One step at a time, start moving in that direction. Sure it may take baby steps, but you could take those baby steps in the right direction and get somewhere, or you could do nothing and watch time pass you by.
I see people like you by the dozens honey. And I'm not dismissing your plight. I understand it's very real, but there isn't anything we can say or do that is going to make things right for you. This feeling of hopelessness stems from you not believing in yourself. You are 40, you are sober and I believe you are going to make it just fine. God never gives us anything we can't handle hon. Hang in there, tomorrow is another day to begin again.
2007-03-23 16:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion she can't grow at this much but she can give it a try. Many hight growing drinks and suppliments are available in market Yogasan like Suryanamaskar and Tadasan can help. She must consult to a good physician.
2016-03-29 01:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of a hard time are you having? Lost where? To feel better just go out and do the things you always wanted to do. The right things anyway and don't let anyone stop you. Don't take life for granted and always stop to smell the roses. (91/2 year of sobriety is fabulous. I hope you're not thinking about relapsing. don't do it. i'm 42 and we are alway growing one way or another. They say wine get's better with time.
2007-03-23 16:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Native 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MAYBE you should just sit down, look in the mirror, and say "hmm, what do i like doing?" if you like watching movies, go to the theaters, if you like sports, join some team, if you like art, draw a pic or two thousand of them....etc. i hope you have a job and if you have extra time, go back to school even if you're sick of it, do something fun and different....it doesn't have to be math or science. and also...GO GET A MAKE OVER...it's so much fun, even for males. GET a hair cut, WASH your dirty face really good with real soap....shave, buy new clothes and spoil yourself a little bit, you deserve it. And the most important thing, ALWAYS smell good, go buy Giorgio armani and spray it on every single morning, or something a little less expensive, CURVE for men...very sexy. then, go out, look good, make sure you wear new clothes, maybe even clothes you never thought you would see yourself in...and find a damn sexy lady and F her brains out, and be proud of it... JUST WAKE UP and stop starring at this computer screen behind closed doors. GET UP!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-23 16:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly you should find your faith and knowing that someone higher up there love you. Open your eyes and looks around, have a positive thinking when somethings bad happen there always good things bound to follow up. Believe me in few years time you will realise that your life is better now than the time you post this question.
2007-03-23 16:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by FERRARI F40 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The United Pentecostal Church organization has a program to help people like you. Look in the phone book and call them. You don't have to be a member.
2007-03-23 16:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congrats!!!!!!....just 'cause you aren't a drinking alcoholic doesn't mean you have to grow up!!! Get out there, make friends, have fun!!!! Oh, and if your soul is hurting, do some volunteer work....giving makes you feel like a million!
2007-03-23 16:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what I think you need to do? Volunteer.....yep, I think helping out other people will take your mind off yourself and your situation. You will feel sooooo much better. Helping out people will give you a new purpose in life and you won't feel lost anymore.
2007-03-23 16:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crap..we're supposed to grow up now??!!!??
How are you lost..we'll need more details.
Other than that, just move forward, don't look back, live your life exactly as you want....
Good luck :)
2007-03-23 16:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋