Long story short, my husband and I will be married for 2 years in May. We have a 14 month old daughter. For the past few months, he's been kind of controlling. I'm not allowed to stay out late (I leave after the baby goes to bed), I am not allowed to talk to any men what so ever (all they want is sex), if I do go to lets say walmart, he'll call me if I am gone too long.
I love him to death, but I'm not sure how much longer I can do it. He is my main source of income, considering I go to school online full time. We cant afford marriage counseling..Any ideas? Thanks.
2007-03-23 16:10:48 · 11 answers · asked by krazybaby121 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guess I should clarify..we aren't out until 4 am...latest we stayed out was midnight...I dont go out every night..I don't go whoring around..much less do I want to spend hours at walmart.
2007-03-23 16:18:48 · update #1
Leave him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My sis is married to a pile like this guy. There is no excuse for being that controlling. It makes me so angry when I see a guy act this way toward a female.
You can make it, just know that you will be happy if you do leave him.
He will NOT change. He will promise you he can. But he will lie. This guy obviously did not get enough *** when he was younger, and that is not your problem, but he is trying to make it yours. Insecure jackasses like this I love to ridicule at bars and clubs. They are embarrassing to the male race.
Just watch how you feel when you are around a man who does not get uptight and jealous of all this petty crap. There is no question you should move on immediately
2007-03-23 16:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm just wondering where do you go when you leave after the baby is in bed? Is your husband upset b/c of the places you go and the people you hang out with? Does he ever ask to go with you and you prefer to be by yourself? You're in a difficult situation with your husband being controlling and jealous. But you need to ask yourself if possibly you're giving him reasons to be that way. Maybe he is very insecure in your relationship and is afraid you are going to cheat on him. If you could show him that you are going to be faithful and he can trust you, maybe he will back off. But first, you must ask yourself if you really love your husband or do you love the financial security he provides you. And remember that having a child changes a marriage tremendously. I found it very stressful and it was hard to change from being Mommy all day to being a wife when the kids are asleep. You all do have some major issues going on in your marriage. If you cannot afford marriage counseling, you should definitely look to your church. Many offer free counseling services for marriages, even if you are not a member. I wish you the best of luck and hope that whatever you decide, you are happy.
2007-03-23 16:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by minna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like u r in trouble if u leave or stay if try an leave this may get even worser.If dont get mad enough and start thrwin punches do your thang dont answer the phone when he calls.Or tell that u r gona leave he he dont stop and see how he reacts play with his mind a little.Some men do that cause women allow to do them like that take chagre dat dont mean nothing cause he has most of them income baby there plenty of help out there 4 u just use good judgement.
2007-03-23 16:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by klo jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's not being unreasonable to ask you not to stay out late and to not talk to men. Second, you need to stop thinking about yourself and think about your child. Don't let your child grow up in a broken home over your husbands reasonable requests.
2007-03-23 16:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him why do you want to go out and talk to other men? I ask this because I did this with my first husband.....I didn't really love him. Now I would never think of going out without my husband.
2007-03-23 20:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
god....HOW ANNOYINGGGGGG. if you feel like you can start working right away and be independant enough to support yourself and your kid...then leave him. but if you love him so much, you need to FORCE him to understand that the more obsessed with you that he is, the farther away he's making you. tell him STRAIGHT OUT exactly what's on your mind....you can't make this final decision on your own, and i'm not sure if you're religious or not...you don't have to be...but usually i'm sure churchs can help with that..and maybe a relative who your husband respects..etc. good luck.
2007-03-23 16:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there's more to this story...easy...quit staying out til 4 am, quit flirting with guys, and get your crap at Wally Mart and leave. Sounds like he's your security blanket and that's it. Go to your church and get counseling, it's free.
2007-03-23 16:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your man is insecure.tough question. reassure him, even though its not nessary and its a long process. at the same time, dont be blind to the possibality that his insecurity may come from his own infedelity. i hope this helps. good luck and god bless.
2007-03-23 16:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by gary w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah, because he cares about you, you should leave him.....good grief!!!!!!!!!!! Don't answer the phone....you have a baby!!! No one that has a 14 month old baby and who is married should stay out late.....grow up...!!!!
2007-03-23 16:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what anyone says on here, your going to do what your mind tells you do to.
2007-03-23 16:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by chocolate_thunder_in_dallas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋