what i mean is that my husband is a trucker i know hes very tired when he comes off the road but i also need just a little time from him i feel rejected some
2007-03-23 16:02:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Relax together, lay on the couch together, take naps, watch a movie...Text him naughty things while he's on the road, take some pics of yourself and send them to him while he's gone...Make him want to come home and be alert! :)
2007-03-23 16:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wouldn't it be nice if all of the people who submitted answers were actually trying to be helpful instead of just obnoxious? Oh well....
What you're dealing with is a very common problem. Husbands and wives often have very different levels of desire for intimacy, which can lead to feelings of frustration and rejection. In your case, the prolonged separation while your husband is on the road can further aggravate the problem. When he returns home, you're ready to connect while he's ready to disconnect and wind down.
As with a lot of issues between spouses, the key is communication. If you haven't come right out and told him how you feel, it's entirely possible that your husband doesn't realize that there's a problem. Or if he does sense a problem, perhaps he's misinterpreting the cause. Never be afraid to talk about your needs with your spouse. As a husband, I want my wife to tell me what her needs are because (sorry to say) sometimes I'm too focused on other things to see when I'm not satisfying them. The next time he comes home from the road, I'd suggest you first give him time to relax and then sit down for a talk. Don't beat around the bush...be honest and direct about what you're feeling and I think he'll respond in kind. You may learn some things about his feelings that you didn't realize as well.
Ultimately, I think you need to strike a balance. Sometimes you may have to postpone intimacy to give your husband a chance to relax...sometimes he may have to postpone his rest in order to meet your needs. Many people tend to disregard the mental aspects to creating desire and focus on the physical....how you dress, what you say, etc. You may find that once he knows what you have in mind for his homecoming, that the anticipation will end up increasing desire for both of you.
There's a happy medium out there somewhere, but it's essential that you communicate openly to find it. Good luck!
2007-03-23 16:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Marcus75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not possible when he is tired and stressed out when driving all the time...
you gotta get him when he is not tired and stressed ..
it's that simple when you're talking about a tired and stressed man..
Get and read (if you have not yet) Men are from Mars Women are From Venus by John Gray
then just give him good massages when he comes home and a good hot meal once or twice a week.
just smell god and give the poor guy time to comehome chill for an hour or so and be quiet with him or doing something in another room, etc
Men need time to recollect themselves and so on...
read the book,, then you'll know much much more
2007-03-23 16:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can we trade husband....shoootttt. My hubby is a trucker too, and we he gets home thats all he wants to do is have sex. Him being gone for two weeks at a time hurts his balls honey. Anyhow, just try to make him feel relaxed, get his things all organized, do everything for him. Draw him a hot bath, rub him down with some massage oil....do something girl...I dunno.
2007-03-23 16:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by chocolate_thunder_in_dallas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just like that. I feel for you, but what can you do? Maybe talk about times when you were dating, how amazing every minute was... unless it wasn't, and you just married some tool to be taken care of. I don't know your situation. Sorreee
2007-03-23 16:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by m s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try fixing u schdule were u can him the road with and hav your way with on the road or in the back of the truck.
2007-03-23 16:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by klo jones 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol find out what his girlfriend looks like. kidding. if hes a otr driver and he comes home after a week of work. let him have a little bit of time. have you ever gone with him?
2007-03-23 16:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be very happy to have time to yourself. What if he was there all the time and expected a ton from you! That's where I am and I wish I had it your way. Enjoy it.
2007-03-23 16:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by CaTcHmEiFuCaN 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be willing to do whatever, whenever....and smile about it...oh and cook him a great dinner (or breakfast)
2007-03-23 16:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit on his face in a provocative manner...he will then be stimulated.
2007-03-23 16:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋