How to get my wife lose weight.?

Question

She really love sex but her size really turn me off and we always end up quarrelling. I beg her to lose weight but she just dont care.

Answer 1

It's not that easy, you can't just drop the weight. Work with her, maybe a weight watchers program and curves will help. Be there for her, support her and love her no matter what and help her through it. Eat the same things she does so you do it as a team and walk with her, take nighttime strolls together, just dont be an a-hole about it cause with that attitude she will never lose weight.

Answer 2

Well, if she has some extra pounds only, it shouldn’t be that bad unless you are obsessed with a model body.

If that is the case, you better wake up and start living a real life because those models from Victoria’s Secret, the movies and the TV are fake. They are in a almost inhumane restricted diet, and do exercise almost all day long. Is their job.

Now, if she is really overweight, then she should take care of herself, not only for looks, but for healthy reasons. Is a turn off for you, people will look at her as a person that doesn’t take care of herself, and she is risking her life by allowing herself being fat.

If this is the case (I hope so), then you have to talk to her. Let her understand is not just looks, is her health too. And maybe you can also do some commitment to her and both of you could go to the gym together. I’m sure she would love for you to have some good muscle as well, right? And if you do have it, then just encourage her to got o the gym with you.

Also watch the diet, both of you. Guys need a different diet than girls, but still, you both can watch it together, and help each other prepare good healthy meals and eat the right amounts.

To loose weight, you have to reduce the calories you take compare to the calories you consume, so the body can use body fat as fuel as well. Is simple math. The main thing here is also to be dedicated and don’t stop. If you stop, then it takes forever to start over again and you might never do it.

A good way to learn hot to eat and how to have a good diet is using one of those programs they advertise on TV. My Wife tried them, and they worked. Nutri System is a good one, or the Weight Watchers too. They are expensive, but they work and they teach you how to eat. If you use them for two or three months, you will be able to do it on your own later on.

If going to a gym is too complicated, then try walking and running everyday. Park the car far away in the parking lot, and use the stairs instead of the elevator. Is funny, but it actually works. The more you work, the more calories you burn. You can also buy a “home gym” machine if you prefer to do gym exercise at home.

And make sure to keep a good timing for eating. Keep a schedule for you and her, and promise each other you will follow it. Even on weekends. And allow yourselves to a good meal at least once a week as a reward (this means to eat like a pig whatever you want). You won’t even realize it, and you will not be eating too much even when you could as your body will adjust to the new diet.

Hopefully, you can convince her that she needs to do all this for her own good. Is hard as she will think is just for you so you can have a skinny wife, but you have to let her know that it is a reason, but not the only one. Besides, she will gain confidence as she sees herself on the mirror after loosing weight, and the next thing you know she will be wearing sexy clothes and asking you to buy her some sexy lingerie and bikinies for the beach ;)

Good luck.

Answer 3

I was overweight for the last 20 years. I was in a relationship were my partner never mentioned my weight. He loved me, weight and all. I was embarrassed about the way I looked when we would go out as a couple-which wasn't often. The lovemaking was great because he never made comments on the fat belly I had. I was the one who felt guilty. We ended up breaking up, and I ended up have larparoscopic gastric bypass. To date, I have lose 102 pounds. I feel like a different person Maybe you can do a little research, get the pamphlets, and have a serious health conversation with your wife without judging her. If after that she still doesn't want to do anything about her issue, it will be up to you to decide if you can love her with her weight issue, I certainly hope you can and will. What is on the inside is what counts.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

First off, shame on you for caring about her weight, you married, knowing that ppl go throug changes. If you want her to lose weight, then try exercising with her an eating more healthy, Try taking walks or riding bikes. You should love your wife no matter what she looks like, I am sure if you were to gain a little weight she would still find you attractive.

Answer 6

As most wise people say patience is a virtue.You may have to approach this in a time when she is not so vulnerable, like not in the heat of the moment . If you pick up the vibe I'm sending. Present your case in a clear way. For example not just her extra weight turns you off. It also could concern you for health reasons. Heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes are all very good reasons for concern. You could also try a more loving approach to her losing weight . Offer to walk with her. Cut fat, and excess sugar out of both your diets . Resolve to be more healthy, and active for both of you. IT will help a lot of other aspects of your life also.

Answer 7

Hmmm.... I am trying to figure out how to put this....before I married my wife of now 15 years I was....I guess like you.....if I was with someone that put on a few pounds I found it hard to...well get hard. But now and it could be because I am older...but it really does not matter that much to me. I guess if they were morbidly obese then yes I would not be able to make love to them....but I am sure that most women would feel the same if a man was that obese. I guess what I am trying to say is if you are REALLY in love with her then being a little over weight would not make that big of a impact on your sex life. Having said that if she is over weight to the point that it is a real danger to her health then that may be the way to talk to her about it....not that you cant get turned on when she is ...well fat.

Answer 8

Start to buy the groceries. Purchase foods that are good for you and her. Start her on a mini-diet. You have to also work out, if you want her to come along. If you fight about it already, drop subtle hints, try not to push the issue too hard. Doing simple things will help her change alittle, but if you drop many hints, she might get the picture and do what you want.

Answer 9

Ask her how she would feel if you let yourself go...My husband tells me if I start looking fluffy...I don't care, I'd rather have him tell me that I need to watch what I eat rather than gaining 20 pounds and having to lose all of it.

Tell her that you want her to be healthy and start buying healthier food ( go to the store with her.) Eat healthy with her...she'll feel like a fat pig when she's inhaling her Big Mac and you're eating your salad..Get outside together...Or else just be brutally honest with her. What's wrong with honesty? Some women can't handle the truth, so be prepared for that. It's not just what's on the inside that counts and that is the truth.

Answer 10

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