why cant i fit in at work?

Question

i dont play a big role in group conversations, i let ppl cut me off, and feel akward around majority of my coworkers. a few weeks ago i would have been very confident. but im not ne more. and i havent been to close to GOd.(my fault of course) and i feel like i will never fit in if i dont love myself. and how could i love myself when im not showing God that same love. i feel like im in a rut. pleez help(sum of my coworkers are twofaced bitches and over the top jerks)stressful sumtimes=(

Answer 1

Sound like your thinking too much. At work if you have the best idea fight for it and explain to people why you're right.
Being right about a simple solution to a complex problem is the only confidence you need.
Just open your mouth and go.

Answer 2

You answered your own question, your co-workers are bitches and jerks. I would seek employment else where. To tell you the truth, that is exactly why I would never work in an environment like that. To many head games, trying to keep you down. If I could be so bold as to recommend that you Check out the Coast Guard. They are a great organization, free training, free housing, free medical, and when and if you ever decided to get out, you would have a career. It really is a great opportunity for a young woman. And No you don't have to go on a boat, there are lots of land jobs as well. They would probably start you out as a dispatcher for search and rescue missions, while they trained you in the field of your choice. Would you want to be a Medic, a Doctor, a Lawyer, a Helicopter Pilot...... the oppurtunities are endless. My husband joined when he was 17 and retired with a pension at 37 for the rest of his life. The only thing that I would do differently today would be to have them sign, saying that if you did a 20 year stint, that they would have to pay you retirement. Thats only because the way that I see it now days is that in 20 years, no company will offer retirement. That dosen't mean that you would sign up for 20 years, you only sign up for 4 years at a time. That would show those losers at work!!! You would be totally indepedent, get to live in small beach towns, like Marathon, Florida or South Padre Island Texas. I don't want to preach to you so I'll let it rest, I just wanted to make you aware of the benefits for a young lady. Good Luck. Don't let those small minded creeps get you down

Answer 3

You're not alone, many people feel the same way. You feel different somehow than the others, like you'll never be a part of the crowd. Well, good for you! It's good to be a unique individual that doesn't easily fit in with the main crowd. Most popular co-workers are not really good, decent people if you searched their hearts. Yes, they where the cool clothes, they know how to party, they are up on the latest gossip and possibly very attractive. But do they care for others? Are they sincere, kind, loving, giving individuals who are trying to make this world a better place? No. So don't feel bad if you don't fit in. All you really need to worry about is fitting in with GOD. He judges the inner man (and woman) because He knows that your inner spirit is who you really are. God states in His word that man judges by the outward appearance but God judges the inner spirit. If you have God on your side, you don't need to worry about fitting in with your co-workers. Go to church and meet some like minded individuals who will love and accept you for the wonderful human being you are! Love God first and He will give you love for yourself. Then once you have that, it will be easy to love others! Read a book by Watchman Nee called, "The spiritual man". This will help you greatly and you can probably find it at the library. Hope you find peace and love!

Answer 4

First try to fix your relationship with God. Give an honest and steady effort through prayer and meditation, and you will definitely get something back. After you feel at peace w/ yourself and God, this peace will most likely "overflow" to those around you. Just try to act friendly and nice to everyone around you. It's hard I know (know a lot of jerks, but are still nice to them). If you work hard and are generally kind, people will begin to respect you and you will probably feel better about yourself! (Not to mention a possible raise!)

Answer 5

Sorry to hear about your not enjoying work- but it looks like the answer is in your question.

DISCLAIMER: I am not a shrink or a religious zealot

If you think your spirituality is the problem, I'd bet you a pony that you are right.

Address what you think is the issue and see where you are. And jerks and beeotches, lo, they will be with us always.

Answer 6

it sounds like youve pretty much got your answer in your ? try talking to god instead of the morons on this answers web site also if your coworkers are two faced bitches and jerks why would you want to fit in anyway hope this helps

Answer 7

Da girl,you are in a rut it happens to all of us,that is how we learn.Those hard days when nobody seems to care,we learn to take care of ourselves.Just try not to forget what you are going through now when you do succeed.Its great to look back,just look back at what you learned,not what you should of learned.

Answer 8

Hon, where EVER you work, for your whole LIFE, there will be 2-face b!tches and jerks. All you can do is avoid talking to them, and never talk to ANYBODY about private matters!!!!

It sucks, because we are all sisters & should band together......but it doesn't work like that.
Go to work, do your job the best you can, and go home. Repeat until age 67.

Answer 9

You never told us what kind of work go do. We all have personality conflicts. Maybe you need to change jobs or go back to some kind of school. Good Luck.

Answer 10

Instead of asking us you should pray and ask for guidance.
But I would say that you should just talk and try to create conversations with the ones next to you, make jokes. somthing