I filed for child support knowing that my Ex will get some visitation. He got a lawyer and wants to sue for full custody.
He has never met the baby and did not show at the hospital.
We are both non-drug users and work. What is he up to?
I have my baby in a stable home and my parents watch her when I'm at work. Can he just get full custody? is he trying to get out of Child support? someone with this situation please help me
thank you
2007-03-23 15:25:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably is trying to get out of child support and is trying to scare you. He will not get full custody, unless he can prove you are not providing a stable, safe home. I went thru this and the father did not get full custody. He will get visitation and you cannot withhold visitation to the child for ANY reason. Even if he is not paying support he has the right to see his child. Hang in there and try not to worry. Get a good attorney and keep a journal. Go back and write down everything you can remember because it will be brought up in court. He will have to prove why he needs custody and I don't think that will be an easy task for him. Be careful what you say and do, because he is probably journaling this as well. My ex did this but just wasted my money and his. His visitation is very fair and he just wanted to make me miserable because I got remarried.
2007-03-23 15:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a general scare tactic. Don't panic. If you have been taking care of the child, he has to prove that you are unfit, abusive, harming that child in some way. Most times the courts will not take the child out of a stable home. You will have to give him visitation. You can establish the fact that he has never established a relationship with the baby.
Get a lawyer to help you out with this. best of luck.
2007-03-23 15:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very difficult to get this child. He would have to prove you completely unfit and I don't think this is a concern here. He has not seen the baby, he is just trying to get out of paying you money. Little does he know , that it will cost him a hell of a lot more to raise that child than paying child support would. Has he really obtained a lawyer or trying to scare you into backing out of getting support? I would think any lawyer would tell him his chances are slim to none. Stand firm, get the support that your child deserves.
2007-03-23 15:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on who the judge determines will provide a more stable home for the child. More than likely, you have nothing to worry about. Are you sure the child is his. If there is any possibility that she isn't his, a DNA test will definitely keep your baby with you. Hope things work out for you.
2007-03-23 15:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by ama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it s very rare for a judge to grant full custody to a father unless he can prove you are unfit in some way shape or form....you sound like you have your head on staright and so im gonna haveta say that he wont get at the most joint custody...in massachusetts where i live what that means is when a child is in school they will be with you...he would get them weekends and holidays and school breaks.....before they are school age in my state he would be entitled to the child 6 months out of the year...but to be honest he has to prove he has childcare for the infant when hes at work....since you were not married is his name even on the birth certificate cause if it isnt he has to first prove paternity...but it be really difficult for him to get full custody hun....you have absolutely nothing to worry about so long as you have a normal lifestyle and can provide food shelter and clothing for your baby....no worries!
2007-03-23 15:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by bawstoncreampie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can get custody if he has a case, you asking for child support acknowledges him as the father and as such he has custodial rights, he can get custody but maybe just partial. Why do you suspect he has a sneaky motive maybe he wants to be a part of his daughtes life and as you state he works and is a non drug user he should be apart of her life. why don' t you talk to him and see if you can reach an agreement, for joint custody and then do to court and have it all legalized
2007-03-23 15:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by thelmashirley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can prove he can provide a better enviroment for the baby yes.Its not likely they will take it from you though, chances are youll both get joint custody.This is why i tell young people to make a committment(marriage0 FIRST before making babies.You better get a lawyer though to be on the safeside.
2007-03-23 15:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not in the situation, but im good at using logic, especially from a guys point of view. hes probably just trying to get out of paying extra to help you support it, and he probably doesnt even care about the baby if he didnt show up when it was born or even try to meet it.
2007-03-23 15:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by a person 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it. What you should want for your baby is joint custody. Children do best when allowed to have both parents active in their upbringing.
2007-03-23 20:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he the father of the child? what kind of father is he? I know he won't. He hasn't got any evidence that he's with the child.
2007-03-23 15:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋