Marriage at times is very hard and my sibling and her spouse are going thrugh the "I hate you and marriage is not fun anymore we are not happy we want out." The thing is that They do love eachother and have the potential and makings of an awesome marraige but they are young in thier marraige under 6 years.
My sibling has indicated that my husband and I have a good marraige and that he treats me really good but beleive me we have had our times many times over and we worked through it.
What are things that I can say or do to help her and her spouse through this very hard time? What are things NOT to say. I love this person very much and I want my sibling to be happy and peaceful again.
2007-03-23 15:12:09 · 4 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you could get your husband to help you on this one. Sure, you could sit down and tell your sister all about the work that has gone into your marriage - how hard it is; how rewarding the work can be --- but you are her sibling and although she loves you, she will be convinced that you are telling her all these things merely because you want her to stay in her unhappy marriage. So if you could get your husband to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her about the realities of marriage, maybe it would turn on a light for her.
Problem is, would it turn on a light for her husband ? Takes two to tango, of course, and as you said - the BOTH of you, you AND your husband, had hard times and the BOTH of you have worked through it. Again, maybe this could be a two-fold approach, with one of you also talking to her husband. Maybe you. Maybe your husband - only you know the best chemistry here.
Depending on the dynamics, and the openness of the relationship you all have, maybe the two of you, together, could talk to the two of them, together.
But the bottom line is that they, together, have to want to work this out. The two of them really should be with a marriage counselor, ---even if loving family intervention takes place and advice is given. A dispassionate third party who can help them see the realities of their relationship and help them turn toward each other, rather than away from each other, to work out their problems might be just the thing.
2007-03-23 15:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest that they see a counseller that they can talk through thier issues.
tell her that you have had your tough times but that you and your husband work hard and talk about your issues instead of letting them fester until you explode
2007-03-23 22:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Shopaholic Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you BOTH have faults, you BOTH need to see them and you BOTH need to change.If you arent willing to do that then youll never be able to have a lasting relationship with ANYONE.They need to put one another first, not theirselves.
2007-03-23 22:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont never marry
2007-03-23 22:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by albetsheno c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋