2007-03-23 14:53:48 · 19 answers · asked by purdygirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm sorry, I was in such a hurry to give 'Passby..' a thumbs down that I accidentally hit thumbs up - I REALLY wanted to give a thumbs down for that rude answer .
Yes, if your husband has said it before, he will tell you again that you ARE beautiful. Some men go through a 9 month "duh" stage when their wife is pregnant and forget to say the things that they want to and should say, especially during this time... I know, because I was that way also. It probably wouldn't hurt for you to talk to him about it if it bothers you a lot. If he is a true loving and caring husband, he will understand.
Congratulations on your new addition to your family.
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2007-03-23 15:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by J T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably beginning to feel the anxiety of the upcoming delivery. It is a very difficult time for men because they see the gravity of the situation that you (alone) will be facing. If he softens you up with "how beautiful you are," how on earth do you plan to suddenly toughen up to deliver. It's like telling the quarterback how "cute" he is just before he goes on the field to pitch for the state championship. Think about it that way! He wants his energy focused on the game, the plays, and visions of the win. Anything else could cost him the victory.
I am sure that you are beautiful inside and out; however, it doesn't take much to change that beauty into a pressurized brute. Rehearse the delivery plans; have him look at your suitcase belongings to see if he can spot something that may have been overlooked; ask him where he plans to shop for flowers afterwards; look at toys online at fisher price; talk about the standards of the home that may need to change when the baby comes; talk about him getting up and bringing the baby to you for the early morning feedings during the first few weeks; talk about his time off from work; discuss the finances...one more time...to be sure that everyone knows of any 'tight spots'; talk to him about the exercises that strengthen and tone the vaginal muscles post delivery so that you are ready to please him again -- after the six weeks or so.
Relax, read the links below, have a beautiful delivery, a beautiful baby, and a beautiful life thereafter...
2007-03-23 22:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by sheila_0123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BEcause men go weird when women get pregnant, mine wouldnt even have sex with me until he had 5 different gynos telling him that it definately cannot hurt the baby, meanwhile when I would kiss or hug him he would go cold thinking that I wanted to make love with him, he was so scared of hurting the baby he wouldnt let himself get close to me. Not only that their brains are so filled with worries about providing for the baby, their new responsibilities, and the changes that will happen in their life, and worried about you and the birth they forget little things like telling you that your gorgeous...
Its not that you arn't pretty any more he just forgot to say it, men arn't good on details especially when their brains are full. Why dont you sit down with him and tell him how you feel say hey baby I am feeling a bit uncomfortable with my body right now, and feel that maybe you aren't finding me sexy or beautiful anymore, I knwo I am probably being over sensitive for my huge amount of hormones I have running around my system, but want to know what you think and feel" Most likely he will tell you that your the most fab thing in this planet and that he is just occupied with other things right now and that he is sorry for not thining about small details
Best of luck, remember its not just you thats numebr one now, its baby too, so he may have his mind there
2007-03-23 22:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by jazyj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be saying it now because he could now see you as a giver of life. Or he might be afraid due to your hormones if he says your beautiful you may not believe him.
Dont stress overly about it and yes he will more than likely tell you again. You are in the most beautiful part of a womans life. Carrying life is our gift and that makes us beautiful. Look in the mirror at your child growing within you and tell me you arent!!
2007-03-23 22:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him that you feel that way? Guys are not always to bright on these matters. This can be a very insecure time of life. Get him a book to read about how you feel. The Expectant Father is a great book for them to read. Its not to late for him to understand you need extra attention and reassurance. . It might not be that he is insensitive, he just might not get it. Again talk to him!! And by the way! You are beautiful. And have that confidence on you at all times! Make him see it. Fix your hair put make up on and dress cute around him. I know your tired but remind him of how and why that baby was made to begin with!!
2007-03-23 22:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by april S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think a relationship stays the same and you both have to be aware of these subtle changes,for example your condition have changed but mentally you are still in honeymoon mode.Your Spouse on the other hand is probably on overdrive thinking about the new addition.This is 2nd stage.Every 7yrs be aware of a slight shift
2007-03-23 22:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aah sweetie...You are beautiful....
I bet you he is scared of the upcoming birth and how his life will change forever....and it will....but for the better.
Its a wonderful time for the both of you, but men get all freaked out about finances and money..being able to support a family etc etc. Just tell him you love him, plan a romantic evening in. My moneys on that you will hear ;beautiful' by the end of the night!! Good luck
2007-03-23 22:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks!!! Sorry to hear that. My spouse doesn't tell me that I am beautiful Either.
30 weeks pregnant
2007-03-23 22:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he isn't saying it doesn't mean he doesn't think it. He is more then likely overwhelmed with the responsibility and magnitude of the situation, however once the baby has been born and you can settle into a routine there is no doubt his love and adoration for you will pour out.
2007-03-23 22:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by Nate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am disturbed by this because usually when you are pregnant a husband find you your most beautiful and sexy and everything. So for your sake i pray that he will. But guess what i think that you are beautiful girl friend.
2007-03-23 22:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by tanya79aqua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋