2007-03-23 14:50:45 · 6 answers · asked by doublewidemama 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Find new buds. Go to new places. Even move if you think it's a good idea to start over.
It's best to refer them to helping agencies and make yourself scarce.
2007-03-23 15:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well what do you mean by fallout? A lot depends on that. Are they angry that you wouldn't help them or just embarresed by the fact that you don't share the same vice that they do?
I had friends that smoked pot. They knew I didn't. We were still friends, they just knew not to smoke pot around me, and that I would politely say "No, thanks but No. I don't do that."
So are we talking boyfriend dumping you because you won't smuggle heroin for him or kids from school thinking you aren't cool because you wouldn't toke up at a party? Makes it kind of hard to answer without knowing that.
I can tell you one thing though. Drugs are a DESTROYER of lives. Not doing drugs, not being with people who do drugs isn't being "superior" it is SURVIVAL. Drugs will suck all the money, life, morals out of people. When someone is hooked they will do ANYTHING (and I mean ANYTHING) to get the $$ for their next fix. People have sold their children, killed their friends and parents to get the $$ for a fix. If it gets bad enough druggies do ANYTHING.
Now not all druggies get THAT bad, but with drug use (my friends didn't) but it normally gets bad enough before it gets better... unless of course the drugs kill them first.
Either way, you don't want to be around that. You just don't want to be around that... and that is without the added attraction of possibly spending several years in a Federal Jail.
So I would recomend not having a close relationship with anyone who does drugs. There are plenty of good folks who DON'T do durgs that you can go have relationships with; and as an added bonus, you know that if you are out on a date with them and the cops pull you over, you can relax in the knowledge that there isn't anything in the trunk of the car that would get you 5-10 years in the State Pen.
2007-03-23 22:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Larry R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's drugs or any other behavior that you choose not to be a party to, it's really quite simple. You explain to the persons involved that while you like/love them, you do not agree with their choice in this matter, and their participation in the behavior that you don't agree with is going to harm your relationship.
If the drugs or other behavior isn't an addiction, then it should be pretty easy to see where you rate on their priority scale vs. the behavior of which you don't approve.
If the drugs or other behavior IS an addiction, then you have to decide if you and your relationship can handle the tough steps necessary to break the addiction.
It's a different choice for each situation. I wish for you that you will find the correct one for yours.
2007-03-24 14:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as helpful as you know to the person, and ask for aid by others if this is necessary, but being no party to them in vice is a gracious benefit, and should be well retained. Even if this means having a different group of people in your life, though you should always help them as a dear friend, even if you are distanced otherwise.
God bless.
2007-03-23 22:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Gravitar or not... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If it was something stupid like marijuana, I would kick myself for being overreactive.
2007-03-23 22:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave them alone,if they dont want to get help then they wont.
2007-03-23 22:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by beverly c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋