unwanted pregnancy - abortion?? please help?

Question

I've recently found out i was pregnant but i'm not longer with the father. i've told him about this and he said he'd be there for me whatever i choose to do.
i've chosen to have an abortion but am unsure of whats involved and whether he can be with me when the abortion is carried out. i'm already 10 weeks gone and am due to see the doctor next week but would like a bit of a heads up!
Please help!
xxx

just to let you know im 21, nearly 22

Answer 1

You sound young. I think you need to get some counselling before you do anything - call the pregnancy helpline on 0800 028 2228. Don't do anything rash.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you're in this situation. My daughter just had a baby girl at 21...she's not with the dad....Just really think about if the abortion is indeed what you want to do and be sure you can live with that decision. I'm totally pro-choice however sometimes things happen for a reason. I was very concerned when my daughter told us she was pregnant. I was worried she wouldn't be a good mom because she's a bit of a party girl. But, she is just the absolute best mom and loves her baby so much. She has alot of support though both financially and with help for the baby although she doesn't live with us. I'm not sure what kind of support system you might have. I wish you the very best.

Answer 3

I was 23 when i got pregnant i wasnt having periods 18 months prior to that and was told it was unlikely id get pregnant wothout help i fell pregnant 6 months later and i considered a termination i was 10 wks when i found out wopuld have been 15 wks by the time it was done the baby is formd at 8 weeks look up pics on websites or medical books.Needless to say having thought about it carefully i had the baby i decided the father was not who i wanted to be with and went it alone. My late mum was wonderful and i couldnt have been more greatful my daughter is now 18 and i have not been able to have any more even with fertility drugs!!!!

So think very carefully it might be your only chance i got a council flat and benefits it wasnt easy but i got through it and i am very glad i did!!

Answer 4

You have to be very careful normally most doctors wont abort if its mroe than 12 weeks, the longer you wait the more dangerous it is, the more it hurts the baby, and the more scar tissure you will get from when they suck it out of you, they normally giv eyoug as or local anaesthetic. Have you looked at it on the ultrasound? At 10 weeks your little bubba is already moving and sucking its thumb and kicking and punching, it is so cute, are you sure you want to abort, I would understand if you were only 5 or 6 weeks along as it is still in the embrionic stage, but now that it is a little bubba at 10 weeks please think about it. My mum had two abortions and has gone through laods of regret and emotional problems.

Really think about the risks involved aswell.

It shoudln't hurt you too much, although you may feel some discomfort, whatever you decide to do will be the right decision but please think about it well, I was going to abort mine but when I saw it on the ultrasound I changed my mind and now I am the happiest girl ever to be 4 months pregnant

Answer 5

I take it that you have spoken about this with the doctor/Mum/Dad/boyfriend before coming to this decision!! If you are going ahead then get it done as soon as possible, it will be better for you both mentally and physically. It is a simple procedure at this stage. Wait longer and it can be more complicated. It takes very little time and you will be able to leave hospital within a few hours once they have checked that you are ok. You can receive councelling after the abortion if you wish. Good Luck with whichever decision you make. I am sure you have given the matter your full consideration.

Answer 6

Pat M's an Idiot, it's not wrong to have an abortion at all, abortion in a lot of cases is the only sensible choice that some people have, go to hell - Along with anyone else who says it's wrong, the feelings of the mother are a million times more important, than something that is nothing even born, it's no worse than using contraception.

Answer 7

I've had friends in this situation, and since others are telling you to change your mind without answering your question, I'll simply tell you what is involved. First off, when the procedure is done, your ex cannot be in the room with you. There will be a doctor there, as well as a nurse, and you can hold her hand if you need comforting. Usually, before you get the procedure done, you must speak to another first who will ask you why you choose to have one. This is to prevent people regretting their decision later, however, many do end up regretting it regardless. When you go get the procedure done, you are given anesthetia, usually with a needle inserted into your vagina. The procedure is completed within a few minutes, and you will experience cramping and bleeding. You are put into another room to recover, and given something to drink as well as a few cracker. Since you will be bleeding for a few weeks afterwards, you willh ave to wear pads. Antibiotics are given to you to ward off infection, and can sometimes make you feel queasy. Get plenty of rest afterwards, and I think it's best not to be left alone in case you get very upset. After 2 weeks, you are required to check back with the clinic to make sure you are healing properly. That's basically it, facts wise.
I hope you are choosing to do this for all the right reasons. I'm a fairly young mother too (23 and due in June) and am so glad that I never had to wonder what to do. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

I am younger than you,...I am 19 and I am also 10 weeks pregnant! I am no longer with my baby's father either! However abortion never came across my mind! Think of it this way! Your baby already has a heart beat! it's lil soul is already created! That lil baby growing inside of you is half of you! God hands babies to people for a reason! God has chosen you to have this baby for a reason, this lil one has a purpose in your life! If you are seriously thinking into abortion I pray that you will come through it fine! I say that because some women have abortions and when they finally meet their perfect man and settle down and try to start a family they can't because the abortion either messed them up or made them infertile! Please think again about aborting your baby! I could never think about doing that! I think of it being half of me and I can't wait to see it grow up and see how much it looks like me or acts like me! To see if it will be a teacher, a doctor or even a hero to someone else! I wish you the best sweetheart!

Answer 9

Call that number the first person suggested.
You shouldn't really ask peoples opinions on abortion, everyone has there own opinion.

At the end of the day, you look at your own circumstances, what is involved for YOU. Dont worry about what others think and say, it's your life. You do whats right for you.
Good luck.

Answer 10

If you want an abortion, do it.
You shouldn't have posted this question, pro life people will hound you and search out questions just like this to scare girls out of it.
The only thing worse than having an abortion is having a baby you can't care for, you aren't a bad person for wanting an abortion. Good luck with everything, hun.

Answer 11

Yes I will admit that it will be hard to be a single parent. but you can get assistance from the goverment until you figure things out. This will help provide you with medical coverage for you and the baby, food for you and the baby, day care and sometimes even low-income housing. Get on your states goverment website and you should be able to find some information that you need. Also I am sure you know at least one person that you could call and talk to about what you need to do. It may be hard raising a baby but I personally feel it would be harder waking up every day knowing that I caused my baby pain.